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Zooey Deschanel Does Marie Claire & Talks Being Bullied

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On being bullied in school:

In an oft-told tale, one day a popular classmate actually spat in her face. “I was talking to her, and she didn’t want me to talk to her. I honestly did nothing,” Deschanel recalls. “I just remember walking over to my locker and wiping the spit off my face, so humiliated.” She recently spotted her assailant in photographs at a mutual friend’s wedding. “I’ve forgiven her,” she says now. “I just don’t forget.” Looking back, she thinks middle school helped build character. “A lot of people I knew who didn’t struggle, who maybe came from a lot of money or were really pretty—those people actually have a harder time as adults in a way. They don’t even understand what it’s like to not be pretty…I’m not saying it’s good, I don’t think people should be mean to each other, [but] I think it made me stronger.”

… says 33 year-old Zooey in Marie Claire.

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  • xAJAx

    She’s so, so beautiful! 🙂 Gosh, her eyes!

    • Pau

      She’s so overly photoshopped*

      I like her but getting spat in the face is not bullying…
      Bullying is frequent not just cause someone was being a tw*t one time. Get over it. Sheesh.

      • JN1976

        Getting spat in the face in the middle of middle or high school doesn’t constitute bullying?!?!? Like really, are you joking or something bc my jaw is on the floor…

        Either you have suffered much deeper trauma and I’m so sorry for the pain and suffering you have been through, really
        OR you ARE a bullier but do worse things than spitting on someone you don’t want to speak to

        Either way, it’s valuable in a society trying to rid/reduce bullying, that much MUCH less consitites bullying than being spit in the face…
        – it does NOT need to be repeated by the offender and even cruel comment is NOT exempt

        CARE about others, and if you dont just leave them alone…no?

  • Carrie

    She is so pretty. I always think she looks 5″5 120 ish. She isn’t overly toned or skinny but far thinner than an average woman. Love her eyes and hair!

  • Mia

    I thought I remember reading somewhere that she grew up in a show biz family? I think her parents are producers or writers, or something like that. Anyway, she certainly did not grow up in hardship! OK, I just looked on Wiki, and it says her father was nominated for an academy award for cinematography.

    • Mia

      Just wanted to add that I don’t think it’s OK at all that someone spit in her face. However, I resent her trying to imply that she has not had a privileged life. She is pretty in the conventional sense, and she comes from a successful family. She is basically like the people she is describing.

      • samra

        100% agree.Thank You!

      • Bo

        Thank you! it good to see people thinking the same! I 100% agree too… I think all those stories made up are annoying a bit…

    • maggie

      however, just because you grow up with showbiz parents doesnt mean you are always rolling in the dough..maybe as a small child her dad wasn’t big yet. the industry goes up and down…take it from someone who has experienced it firsthand 😉

  • Nobsnob

    >.< For f*ck's sake, if someone spitting in your face is the harshest thing you've ever been through, you're some lucky girl.

    • Hazal

      Really? IMO it’s one of the most degrading things people can do to each other.

      • Zoe

        Agreed. I think having someone spit on you is quite disgusting to be fair; however this quote does make her sound a little whiny and gives off a ‘poor little me’ vibe, particularly because, (as other commenters have mentioned), she’s definitely pretty. While I don’t find her to be stunning, I certainly think she’s above average, and is at the very least attractive so her saying “They don’t even understand what it’s like to not be pretty”i s not going be met with the best reaction. The first thing I thought when I read the quote is “Well, neither do you, so what’s your point?”

        • Amanda

          She wasn’t very cute/pretty when she was younger. She’s pretty now but that doesn’t mean she always had perfect looks. Also, showbiz is risky, just because you’re in it, doesn’t mean you’re rich. If you are made fun/bullied/spit on, it doesn’t matter if you’re rich, poor, pretty, ugly…IT’S WRONG AND THINGS LIKE THAT HURT. Especially when we’re growing children.

      • Nobsnob

        Try having a father with a mental illness that makes him agressive with his family, a mother who’s deep down in depression AND being bullied and ignored in school at the same time.

        • Lucie

          you’ve just described my life Nobsnob

        • Zoe

          I get what you’re saying, Nobsbob, as I’ve been through a lot too; being physically abused as a child, among other things. However, despite all I’ve been through, I can still acknowledge that being spat on must still be quite upsetting/aggravating. Even now, after my various experiences, if someone were to spit on me, I might not necessarily burst into tears, but I can certainly say I’d give them a piece of my mind, (and be very tempted to give them a piece of my fist as well! 😀 )

          Just because someone has been through a lot doesn’t mean little ‘everyday’ obstacles such as being spat on are suddenly acceptable; I can’t be 100% sure, but I think it’s unlikely that the majority of people, even those who have experienced hardship, would upon being spat on react by saying “Oh, jolly good! This is fantastic, considering what I’ve previously been through! 😀 ” It’s still pretty disgusting when someone spits on you, especially as people usually tend to spit on objects such as the ground, animals and things that they generally see as being lower than them, so as Hazal said, it’s degrading!

          That being said, I’m with you in thinking that Zooey does sound very spoilt in this quote as being spat on is not by any stretch of the imagination one of the worst things that could ever happen to someone, though that still doesn’t make it acceptable, in my opinion. 🙂

      • Lex


        You’re lucky if you think so.
        What about the millions of kids that grow up with abuse (mental or physical), real deprivation, parental deaths, domestic violence, drug abuse? Not to mention that 1 in every 7 kids in this world are literally starving. Even in a 1st World country like Britain around 60-70 kids a year die by being beaten to death by their parents.
        She’s one of the world’s elite, once spat on at school by another kid. The fact she even brings it up shows her to be a spoiled brat.

      • rubiii

        Someone spit in my face when I was in school..because I didn’t wan’t to give him my chips. I was too skinny and weak but I always fought back. Except that time, that was shock for me, that ppl would treat ppl like that.
        But I agree there are worse things in the world, but as far as bullying in school, beating and spitting is on the top

  • Nobsnob

    I hate people like her who try to pass off as the underdog we “should” root for. (not sure if underdog is the exact word but you get me I hope)

  • callie

    It’s so funny how people presume to know what someone has been through in life based on something they read on line. who are you to say what emotional issues she has dealt with in her life. Please…
    That’s like saying, “Hey you don’t get to be human because I heard your parents were successful.” People go through stuff and it has nothing to do with the external appearance of success or affluence.

    • Mia

      But *she* is the one who said life is easier for people who are attractive and affluent! Maybe she should choose her words more wisely. Besides, no one is saying it’s OK that she got spat on.

      • Naressa Khan

        I think people take things too seriously, and slice words too far out of context on this website. Ask yourself why you’re even putting this much attention into overassessing things and reducing their true meaning(s) in the first place. Like, take a deep breath. Gosh

        Celebs are just humans like us. This interview does not even reflect a fraction of their true lives.

        And please take into consideration that this site posts snippets of texts from interviews, not the entire transcript, which possibly renders the overall context of its OVERALL intended message(s) very well be impaired. So chillex

        • Naressa Khan

          – not the entire *transcripts
          – *their OVERALL intended message(s)

          Sorry was typing faster than usual and missed out on the errors but I hope everyone gets what I’m trying to say.

          Whether something is true or false about a celeb’s life is out of our hands. The truth is we will never know, so let’s just enjoy the superficiality that comes with the media or even this site, and then move on. 🙂

  • Mara

    For those going to say that she *is* conventionally pretty and should stop claiming otherwise – to be fair, many attractive women or men have awkward teenage phases and grow into their looks much later, after leaving school.
    I experienced this myself – I would not have been considered anything close to pretty by my former schoolmates and kids can be cruel when you’re not one of the popular, pretty ones. However things are completely different now, people wouldn’t believe what I was and looked like as a child.
    Of course being bullied in school, when it is limited to “someone once spat in my face”, is not the hardest thing you will have to deal with in your life, even as a “privileged” person, but I agree that it’s an experience that has the potential to make you more mature and strong. (Yeah, I know, people are starving and being killed in wars, but when you’re a child feeling that you’re not loved/unwanted/not part of “the group” can be hard enough)

    • Bo

      It is the same for me… i’ve been bullied from the age of 12 to 16 every day & almost every classes cause i was poor. Now no one believe that i’ve been bullied…My family and i were so poor i had almost no clothes to wear so i started working at the age of 15 to be able to buy myself clothes and shoes… those people being mean to me were part of my motivation… i was hidding myself in the library during all my lunch break to study so i got amazing grades and i was able to go to university… Almost no one knows and no one would believe it but it made me stronger as a person… even today i have maybe 5 really good friends… Everyone thinks i’m the snobbish pretty girl who thinks she better than everyone and no one can understand cause no one believe it…

  • Asrtid

    She came from a showbiz family and went to Crossroads which is an “alternative arts school” in Santa Monica. Her sister is the actress from Bones. I hardly think she had a hard high school life. I grew up in LA as well and had my fair share of fights and girls being mean to me. I would hardly say I or she “struggled”

  • Casey

    I mean yes, every hardship can make you stronger, whether it’s bullying, or illness or the death of a loved one.

    However, she was also born in a very affluent family and very pretty.

    I’m sorry to hear that she got spit on, but almost all people deal with some kind of bullying at some point in their life. Those people also struggle in other ways…maybe they come from dysfunctional families, maybe they were very poor, maybe they were born with a very outstanding feature that gets targeted by others, maybe they fell into a minority group and were harassed or discriminated against…

    When she talks like this, she implies that she was one of the ones who “had to struggle” and I just don’t believe she has truly struggled in life. Even with the small amount of bullying she experienced, I would still categorize her as one of the lucky ones who would probably not be able to endure certain trials of life.

    • Catherine

      I completely can’t remember who I’m replying to, but she probably did struggle as a kid. You can see her yearbook photo, and she’s not what people would describe as pretty. A little chunky and awkward, so odds are, she was picked on. Just because her parents had money and she grew up pretty doesn’t mean she didn’t experience a hard time growing up.

      Zooey’s yearbook picture

  • Mew

    Another victim story from her in a very short time? Wazzup girl?! Where you trying to get with these “omg everyone hate me cause I’m so frikking special” stories?

  • Ray
  • lexy

    oh god, so tired of her….

  • babyvincer

    Oh p-Ah-lease! Every rich, famous, Caucasian, and pretty person claims they were bullied.

  • babyvincer

    Oh p-Ah-lease! Every rich, famous, Caucasian, and pretty person claims they were bullied.j

  • Pandora

    I think stars get asked about bullying and their so called tough upbringings so they can be more relatable to us little people. It’s a big part of Zooey’s image in particular.

    The two photos are so damn similar but the first one seems so much more provocative! Must be an insight into men vs women fans of hers. It’s like the cover photo is what women see when they look at her “I am a coool indee-pendant woman”, and the first photo is what men see with her sultry “Hey, you over there. I want you” look in her eyes lol! XD

  • MerryHappy

    I’ve never thought she was pretty. She’s cute. Probably because I get told I look like her all of the time. I just don’t think she’s as pretty as her sister.

  • snugglepup

    Well that’s unfortunate, but not really the worst thing that could happen, it’s just spit. Not like isolation from the group, being bullied, called names, being abandoned by friends… She may have had it hard in contrast to what she had gone thru. If you had really BAD time you wouldn’t be blabbering it all around, I couldn’t take the “pity”, or would I like people to focus on something that’s not about my career as an actress. This is just unnecessarily. I love her looks but her artsy band and stupid quotes just make me loathe her personality…

    • Nobsnob

      ” If you had really BAD time you wouldn’t be blabbering it all around,”

  • V

    She’s so boring.

  • carrie

    5’5 120ish?

  • solaxia

    She lost me at ‘came from rich families or were really pretty’. Bullying at school has nothing to do with how unpretty you are. Nor does being popular. Sure, the kids with deformities etc will have a harder time and are at risk of being bullied more perhaps. However with a strong personality they can diminish any bullying.

    Most kids that are bullied are average looking or may be really super pretty. However they are generally far quieter and less assertive. The popular kids at my school were no where near more attractive than any of the other more quiet and possibly bullied kids. This is such a simplistic way of looking at things. ‘If you’re rich and pretty you will be popular’. It just doesn’t work that way.

  • CK

    am sorry for her to have experienced bullying just am sorry for anyone else out there, it must be really awful for a kid,sometimes kids don’t even know who to go to with that cos adults don’t seem to understand the seriousness of that, its like they suddenly forget what its like to be a kid, a sensitive and unprotected,only learning the concept of life & society so they feed kids the whole “it happens to everybody, don’t pay attentions to them, it’ll pass or be strong”, etc, adults don’t try to understand how those things are experienced from the point of view of a kid. And i also think&know that beautiful people or those brought up in normal, good or privileged families can end up as fucked up or having as much trouble getting along in life as those from much worse conditions.IMO the way the person’s life is gonna go depends on genetic makeup of character and mostly on parents&other influential environment, i mean there are as many people coming from the hells of hells and managing to have a good&happy life as those from “good/normal” background and vice versa, its all more shaped up by ur genetics&people raising/influencing you than life conditions, cos the way you are determines the way you gonna react to the events&conditions in ur life.Also i think the whole “what doesn’t kill u makes u stronger” is overused these days, feels like for some folks its true but for most its what they try to convince themselves in cos our society hates the weak as much as misfits, personally for me – what doesn’t kill me, hurts me and leaves scars.

  • Ingrid

    She is so annoying… I think 99 % of all people on this site were bullied at school, and we all grew up from this leaving those memories behind. So why is she talking about her past so much?… I had a fight with 4 girls at one time at school, was bullied for being “fat” and etc.. so what?…I don’t care about it as it was nearly 10 years ago, everybody has a bad story about school and it doesn’t make you a hero or special, or a better person… I never thought those things made me strong or a good person, she sounds like she can’t grow up from her school time…

  • rubiii

    Zooey is such a cutie!
    Life sometimes is easier for more attractive people(not always because if they are sick, there is no beauty in the world that can help them) but children in schools who are average tend to work more, think more and strive more because they don’t get easily out of sth things like atractive ppl do
    sometimes attractive people make other people do things for them rather than them doing it by themselves. I think average ppl learn to do things alone
    I repeat this is not always the case, but it could be seen

  • Liv

    I never wanted to be popular or the pretty one in school. I tried as hard as I could to be as unattractive as possible… and when the “pretty” girls who now act like we were BFF in HS called me dyke, ledbo, skark, whore… even though I was none of those things… and even if I was why would it matter… I fought back… is it right to fight back… no… but at the same time I’m not sitting here now… saying “Oh I was this and this and I went through that and that… I left… accomplished things… and used harness as a motivation to be a better person…” Also the meanest mean girl in my life I deal with… is my mother. My mother is the only woman who ever makes me feel like less of a person.

  • Jui

    Her hair/eye/skin coloring is similar to mine. I think she looks good here!

  • lc

    I wonder how many times she is going to bring this up. And why.

  • Spiralina

    She’s very pretty and I love her hair, but every interview I read of hers comes across like a lot of bitter whining about how hard she had it in life. Maybe I’m just reading the wrong quotes of hers, but she doesn’t sound like a particularly happy person if she’s 33 and still complaining about things that happened in high school.