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Body Image Story: Stella Boonshoft

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At high request, here’s a story that fits perfectly in our Beauty and Body Image category that you might find interesting – all the details from People Magazine:

A New York college student who started a blog on self-acceptance in order to help other young women deal with body image taunts has become a viral hero to many for her frank and powerful online discussion about her weight. Stella Boonshoft, who writes The Body Love Blog and who has polycystic ovarian syndrome, put her curves on full view when she posted a bikini photo on her Tumblr site.

My body must be a revolution,” she wrote along with the photo, which she captioned, “Picture might be considered obscene because subject is not thin. And we all know that only skinny people can show their stomachs and celebrate themselves. I am not going to stand for that. This is my body, not yours. MINE.”

“I think people are cruel because they are uncomfortable seeing an image of people who are not thin,” Boonshoft said in an interview on Tuesday’s Today show. “I found that after years of struggling with my body image that really there was no way to justify the bullying as a child and as a teen.”

And her cause became a cyberspace hit with more than 2.4 million views on Facebook. In addition, more than 80,000 people shared her photo from her Tumblr page. But she got even more exposure thanks to Brandon Stanton, who appeared with Boonshoft on Today. He created the Humans of New York project, a collection of street portraits in the city, and he initially took his own photo of Boonshoft fully clothed but later made a decision to use Boonshoft’s own bikini shot, which she says mortified her – at first.

After a while, she decided it was the right choice as she continued to work on her project on sizeism.

“It took a lot of years of soul searching to decide this isn’t right,” she said on Today. “I finally came to a place where I was really happy with the way that I looked. I wanted to leave a message to the bullies who tormented me.”

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Lucy
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Lucy

Brave.

She actually does look happier than the thinnies, too. Hope she truly is.

guru
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guru

brave? hardly. she knew full well when posting this how much she would be applauded by the ‘love yourself’ crowd. and plus, even though she is fat, her body proportions are not unusual. if anything, when looking at her, it is obvious that if she lost weight she’d have a really fashionable body. overall, i dont know what her point is cos at the end of the day hot skinny women will always be on the cover of magazines. thats never gonna change.

tr
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tr

Doesn’t really matter what kind of women are on magazines. Everyone deserves to feel good about their body.

guru
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guru

that’s not the reality of the world we live in and you know it.

Mara
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Mara

Stop with the annoying psycho-games already.
You sound like my grandpa when he realizes he can’t possibly win a discussion.

jenn
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jenn

uh, actually it IS the reality of the world we live in today. I’ve noticed for many years now that since there are more and more plus-size people, there is a greater acceptance of the idea of being plus-size. not only is there more & more fashionable clothing available so that if you’re big, you can still look good, but even more and more magazines are featuring women who aren’t rail-thin only. so it is the reality that you can feel good about your body at any size and that bigger sizes are being celebrated today as well.

sia
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sia

If shes happy with herself then bravo. Applause. Really. What sucks with being ideal-thin or too fat is not being content and happy at it.. a bad attitude makes anyone look ugly

eik
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eik

She is strong today despite the fact that she has been bullied because of her body throughout her life. It is a statement that she did not let it bring her down. That is her point.

Saturn
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Saturn

I have an issue with this… I’m not a mean person and I think you should feel happy with the choices you make in life, good or bad, but this isn’t just about choice of appearance. It’s health too. I don’t say this because I find her unappealing to look at like she implied. It’s because I worry about unhealthily over weight people using this as an excuse to not do anything to help their problem which, I’m sorry to break it to you, is indeed a problem. I was very overweight at 13 and my doctor had to warn… Read more »

linda
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linda

I agree with you. although I love the “movement” of being comfortable in your own skin regardless of shape and size, I am actually kind of worried if this will make us forget health completely and just focus on appearance. Of course I know nothing about her health and for all I know she can be way healthier than myself. But still…I don’t like what turn this issue is taking. Knowing myself I know I don’t feel comfortable at all if I know my health is bad, even though my appearance may seem ok. I really don’t care about the… Read more »

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Why are you so self-righteous to believe that YOU know when someone is healthy? You are not her doctor. Believe it or not, she could be perfectly healthy the way that she is. Looking at someone, no matter how thin or fat they may seem, does not determine their health. And I’m sure none of you care very much about her health to begin with. It is that need to judge other peoples bodies and that ostentatious know-it-all attitude that is affecting society badly, not this girl living her life.

Nobsnob
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Nobsnob

“”And I’m sure none of you care very much about her health to begin with.””

True! The comments above are hypocrisy at its finest. If instead of being a bit overweight she was a bit underweight nobody would have said that because being skinny is so hot right now.

Robin
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Robin

I agree with the fact that people are always defending underweight people with the everlasting argument ‘naturally thin.’ Almost all the VS models weigh too little, but it is accepted because people see their weight as beautiful and healthy. It’s not. I don’t mind accepting the natural thin people, but I really wish that people would accept the natural heavier people as well. I’m quite big, I’m a size 12. But I’m also 5’10 and I am broad built. I care much for my health. Still people keep bugging me about it and they would never do that with the… Read more »

Saturn
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Saturn

wow I kind of feel attacked…listen, Im just saying from my life experience being close to diabetes that its wrong to give overweight girls the invalid reassurance that they will be accepted in life and be healthy and happier than if they lost a little weight. Im not saying that they should be toothpicks or anything but normal. BEING OVERWEIGHT IS A HEALTH ISSUE. and I sure as hell am a lot happier now that I’m not overweight. Telling overweight girls to give up and accept themselves for ‘who they are’ is wrong! they have a choice to be healthy!… Read more »

jenp
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jenp

I think some people on here are projecting their own fears. I live in the US and there are a lot of people I love that are obese. I hate worrying about them dying so whenever I hear about accepting obesity, it freaks me out. Both of my parents are type 2 diabetics, obese, and 60. Sometimes I lay awake at night worrying about them and I’m not confident they’ll make it to 70. Of course obese people get angry if you mention “diet” or “lifestyle change” as if we should just accept their slow death and say nothing to… Read more »

Saturn
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Saturn

THANK YOU! Someone understands. And imagine being told by ur doctor at 13 that you could have diabetes. That was enough to get me interested in being healthy and putting an effort into my life. Shouldn’t that be enough for everyone else too? what is it that makes overeating so much more important than eating moderately and exercising…it’s really not that difficult.

lol
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lol

“Why are you so self-righteous to believe that YOU know when someone is healthy?”

Give it up erica. Why is it you get to post under other names yet anyone else is called out for it?

misscheeks
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misscheeks

Lol/S- don’t be silly…Erica has an account here and she has for ages plus everyone knows how she feels about this so why would she go to the effort of posting under a fake name? And don’t start this s— about me being in Erica’s “clique or real women brigade” either (cos you know how I feel about that phrase it’s complete bs plus I disagree with Erica about a lot of things) but dude she isn’t even commenting here and you’re *still* talking about her! I agree 100% with some points you’ve made in the past on this site… Read more »

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

I don’t think it’s self righteousness. While no one exactly knows if someone is healthy or not just by looking at them, I’m willing to bet that an obese person or an extremely thin person is not as healthy as someone who falls in a normal weight range. It’s common sense really. No one would look at a starving anorexic with dull skin, thin hair, gaunt face, and overall frail look and believe that that person is perfectly healthy. Same applies to someone that’s obese. I’m sure there are exceptions, as there are exceptions to everything, but in general, I’d… Read more »

Brittainb
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Brittainb

I don’t think Saturn was being self-righteous… This is textbook A&P right here. When you are obese you have a much higher chance to develop high blood pressure, atherosclerosis, diabetes, and a number of other health problems than if you live a healthy lifestyle and eat a healthy diet. Type 2 Diabetes Mellitus is a result from having a really high blood glucose level for a very long period of time. The more fatty/sugary foods you eat, the higher your blood glucose level goes. Your pancreas normally makes insulin so your body can “use” your glucose, but because the blood… Read more »

Mara
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Mara

I feel that being comfortable enough with all aspects of your being to accept them without a feeling of shame and guilt is where health, in a broader sense, starts. You can’t be healthy without the confidence to stand by yourself, all flaws aside. It’s ironic that some people think a healthy lifestyle relies on self-judgement. Society has been kindly reminding us of the horrors of obesity for a while now, and it doesn’t seem to have worked. Obesity is still on the rise, along with other eating disorders. Do you really think keeping up the attitude of body-shaming is… Read more »

Emilie
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Emilie

Well said

misscheeks
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misscheeks

Precisely!

sia
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sia

Agreed. Health starts from inside, you choose to accept yourself and like yourself so much that you start to take care of your body the best.. by eating better.. its not all looks its the being i think. Once you start to like yourself and accept whatever weight youre in you’ll get the confidence to make choices also one doesnt as a result of healthy living get their best body in a day.. it takes time and effort. Either way…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDSK91mUNLU

Jewel
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Jewel

Good point. While I don’t think this girl is unhealthy cause she’s not morbidly obese, she may become a symbol for really unhealthily overweight people to continue with their way of life. Having lost my father to health problems that resulted from him being over-weight, I’m kind of irked.

Powwow
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Powwow

I think it’s silly to worry about one person becoming a face of obesity acceptance or being a bad influence on peoples health. You could say the same thing about plenty of celebrities who indirectly send bad messages based on their lifestyle personal choices but at the end of the day, I think if a person doesn’t want to take control of their own diet, or get help to control it then that is their own issue. This is coming from someone who was once at age 15 overweight, but I decided to watch what I eat and lose weight… Read more »

linda
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linda

Nono, I get what you are saying 🙂

lena
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lena

I bet she’s healthier than any anorexic or bulimic.

AnnieC
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AnnieC

What an odd statement. On what are you basing that? Her external appearance versus another person’s behaviors? You have no idea what she eats, along with drug/alcohol/cigarette/exercise habits.

It’s always a fallacy to compare one person’s inner life with another person’s external appearance. There’s absolutely no correlation.

Jaime
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Jaime

Yeah if she was under weight, a smoke in one hand and alchol in the other… There wouldn’t be such a big reaction, yet smoking and alcohol pose more of a risk then weight/size alone.

Emilie
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Emilie

I agree with what you say, but a lot of folks that are overweight know they are already. Seeing this won’t make them drop the quest to get healthy, especially if MDs are urging them, and popular culture is doing the same. But I feel that seeing this will help them feel less ashamed of their bodies (if they are) which isn’t a bad thing! To be comfortable in front of your guy or walking down the street and not be embarrassed is good. And this one image can’t compete with the million that are out there showing the opposite… Read more »

misscheeks
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misscheeks

Agreed Emilie!

solaxia
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solaxia

Emilie- I also agree with that. Sometimes people may be so ashamed of their weight that it leads to more self hatred, and bingeing. They may also feel ‘too fat’ to get out and exercise. They may not have the confidence to overlook the nasty jibes that they get from other people. It can be a really nasty cycle.

jenna
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jenna

Uhm, she says the she has polycystic ovarian syndrome. There ARE some health issues that make it near impossible to be thin. Those include underactive thyroid, polycystic ovarain syndrome/cancer, hormonal diseases, etc. Don’t judge all overweight people as being lazy, or having a choice in the matter. I know many people in my life who cannot lose weight even though they run miles a day and eat a pretty clean diet (which is usually the recipe for success for most people).

solaxia
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solaxia

I do agree with you. However, I still think that is up to the individual what they do (as sad as it is). What about all the dangers that come with starving to be thin, or bingeing and purging? These girls often look completely normal (especially with many models these days having low bmi’s), and so nobody questions their health. Only when people get extremely, painfully thin will their health be questioned. I do get what your saying, and I agree. However, I really think this goes both ways. So many people will now over look the fact that many… Read more »

Jaime
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Jaime

So true! There is no way to justify the fat hating bullying that happens to children and teens… I thank god that it is less vicious as we age. But it still exists, I lost a lot of weight and now when I see people from school they make a point to say how HUGE I was as a kid… It’s like? Dah eff are you on? You torrmented me for years and now you want to remind me? Also my daughter is not over weight, but “chubby”. She is active, eats whole healthy foods and if a happy kid…… Read more »

deppfan
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deppfan

Well I dont see any curves here. Please give up relating every obese women with curviness. She is a thick ruler not a voluptous hourglass.

lc
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lc

Yep.

mary
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mary

the word curvy has replaced fat in the dictionary.

Snip
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Snip

YES IT HAS. Huge pet peeve. If all overweight women regardless of their shape are called “curvy” now, then how are hourglasses categorized?

Emilie
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Emilie

curvaceous…

Mara
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Mara

She didn’t call herself curvy, though. I agree, the word is far too often used as an euphemism for ‘big’ and it’s annoying that the article had People magazine had to use it here, but I don’t think the girl was trying to convince anyone that her shape is curvy, that of a “real woman” or superior to skinnier body types.
I hate that most so called body-image campaigns reinforce the skinny-fat-conflict with this aggressive defensiveness.

Daniela
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Daniela

THIS! Bullsh*t should she be labelled as ‘curves’. It’s fat and fat alone!! And trying to glorify it and pass it off as ‘curves’ is sending out the wrong kind of message as well!!

lol
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lol

No body knows what her natural body shape is because it is covered in layers of fat. If she lost weight, we would see what her body shape really was. I think once someone gets over a certain weight, they lose what was their once natural body shape. If someone starts out an hourglass, if they gain a ton of weight, eventually it will go to the mid section too. if they pack enough weight on.

deppfan
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deppfan

I know a bunch of obese women and each has different shapes trust me. Because after all fat is distributed according to your natural shape. When an hourglass gains weight of course her waist circumference increases proportioned to her widened hips.

lol
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lol

I am just sick of every overweight woman claiming to be an hourglass, when the are in fact just overweight. After a certain point even if a natural hourglass gains a ton of weight, she is going to look like a shapeless blob.

serena
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serena

Lol is right, look at Mila Kunis – she lost 30 lbs for Black Swan and when she gained it back quickly it distorted her body shape and made her look boxy in the torso. I bet Stella is pear-shaped though – notice she cropped out her bottom half for the pictures 😛

Lila
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Lila

I agree completely. This is not the image of a healthy girl who eats enough food for her age/activity level and exercises. While I don’t think super skinny people who under eat and overexercise should be celebrated but we should not celebrate people who are overweight. This can help people feel better about themselves but I hope it does not help the obesity crisis in America by making it okay to never exercise or eat too much.

Mara
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Mara

Do you really REALLY believe, a campaign like this has the power to “help” the obesity crisis? Because if you do, you need to understand, that obesity is an issue far too big and complex to be influenced, in good or bad ways, by a fat girl daring to show her tummy in underwear. Wanting to be healthy has to come from within and when you’ve learned to feel only SHAME and HATE for yourself, you won’t be able to make healthy decisions for the right reasons – you will MAYBE start to change your lifestyle, because you’re convinced it’s… Read more »

misscheeks
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misscheeks

Yup!

Lila
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Lila

Okay, yes, I DO think it is wonderful if someone has self confidence and is alright with looking the way they do. Coming from me who used to be a size US 16 and went to the other anorexic end of a size US 00, I have had my fair share of body distortions and screwed up relationship. I have since been able to eat healthy portions and exercise in a healthy manner and I am a healthy size and weight for my height. My point is that clearly this woman over eats or does not get enough exericise and… Read more »

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

Agree

Emilie
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Emilie

“While I don’t think super skinny people who under eat and overexercise should be celebrated”

Well in America, we already do…. Why not celebrate this one person, vs the thousands of others that go to opposite extremes to be thin, like starving, over exercising, smoking and drugs

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

No one celebrates super skinny people are you kidding me. Super skinny people get called stick insects, anos, 12 year old boys, and a bunch of other names. Slim/Slender yet shapely people are celebrated but not super skinny ones. Last I checked, women like Nicole Richie (during her anorexic days) were just as ridiculed as any fat girl.

Mara
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Mara

I agree that super-skinny women are not openly celebrated by the masses and often ridiculed. However I feel like if there was an emaciated girl in underwear, talking about body image, being bullied in school and being sick of hiding her body, more people would shake their heads at the cruelty of bullies, congratulate her on speaking up and wish her the best. People wouldn’t make her health so much of an issue if she was obviously underweight – and I don’t think it’s ignorance about the dangers of excessively low body weight, but rather that they’ve learned: Under no… Read more »

Winnie
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Winnie

omfg…i agree with everything you wrote. well said.

Emilie
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Emilie

Many celebs are super skinny. You may not be able to tell on screen but in person. Waif like and low bmi.

MissMarilyn
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MissMarilyn

There’s a really weird double standard when it comes to making fun of people at different weight extremes.Thin people are VERY often told “Omg you’re so tiny! Eat a cheeseburger!” but that can honestly be just insulting as telling an overweight person “Omg you’re so big! Eat healthier” People assume that being called thin or tiny or being told to eat a lot is a compliment… but its not. Thin people have insecurities too. Maybe she wants bigger b❆❆bs or a curvier butt. You never know. Thin people ARE just as ridiculed as fat people, it’s just in a different… Read more »

lc
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lc

Nicely written quote, MissMarilyn! Great post. 🙂

Brittainb
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Brittainb

I see your point here with the “real body campaign,” but I just wanted to offer a different view on the subject. I got the impression that, “Since ultra thin models are used in campaigns for everything in advertising, we will use “real bodies” of citizens from our increasingly fat nation and call it the “Real Body Campaign.” It just so happens that the majority of the people of our nation (who the brand is targeting) do not have thin model figures or are overweight/obese. I definitely understand your point of view of getting picked on. I had a skinny… Read more »

kat
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kat

Kelly Ripa begs to differ

Lala
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Lala

I agree with some of the commenters above. Loving yourself at any size, being comfortable in your skin and not being bullied because of your size are all very worthy and important things to aspire to. However, being significantly overweight just isn’t healthy. Anyway you slice it carrying that extra weight is just more stuff your body has to deal with, and its hard. I think the fat pride movement, is a backlash to the notion that being thin is the only way to be healthy, and that healthy is somehow strongly correlated with beautiful. I understand that people are… Read more »

misscheeks
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misscheeks

I’m sure the comments here will be very interesting indeed.

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solaxia
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solaxia

Lol! Well…put

contanza
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contanza

ok. ive never ever writen a comment but i feel like i have to. I agree that being thin is not what wee need to celebrate, we NEED to celebrate normal bodies. have cellulitis, have a bit of strech marks, not having a tight gap. whatever , being normal but that girl is cleary over weight and not healthy at all. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome and i dont look like that because i have to eat right and walk or ride a bike. i think shes a bad example.

Jewel
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Jewel

My sister has polycystic ovarian syndrome too and she also does not look like that. She takes dance classes regularly and eats a clean diet. I think this girl uses her “illness” as an excuse to be lazy. Not a good role model.

Liv
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Liv

I’ve never commented before but I felt the need to respond here. People are saying “I know someone who has this disease and doesn’t look like this…” etc, but that is such an over-generalization that it is ridiculous. Comparing two people is never okay–everyone’s body is different and everyone is affected DIFFERENTLY by illnesses. The point is: you cannot tell if someone is healthy by looking at them, so don’t judge!

Jewel
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Jewel

I wouldn’t judge but announcing that this girl has this illness makes it look like an excuse to me.

Snip
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Snip

Jillian Michaels has PCOS. My 5’3″ 120 best friend does, too. Lots of ideal-weight women have it.

Emilie
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Emilie

I know a few people with PCOS and they are ALL clinically obese.

Irene
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Irene

I agree. We don’t know other person’s situation. I guess we all want to be healthy and to look beautiful. But when someone’s beauty does not meet certain standards, it shouldn’t be a reason for blaming them. Sometimes, even greatest efforts are not enough to obtain desired looks, that’s from my experience.

Mara
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Mara

She’s not trying to be an example for physical health and she doesn’t need to. She’s an example for acceptance and acceptance should be unconditional, if your overweight and unhealthy, underweight and unhealthy or perfectly healthy at any weight. The message is simple: You don’t have to be perfect to be acceptable. It’s NOT just: You don’t have to look conventionally attractive to accept yourself, your body doesn’t have to be a certain shape/weight, to be acceptable. But also: You don’t have to be perfectly healthy or perfectly *anything* to be acceptable. She’s not setting an example for inactivity and… Read more »

justme
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justme

More importantly (imho) is that maintaining a healthy weight is typically consider very important when managing POS… To be fair, this may be a healthy weight comparatively speaking for her, it doesn’t appear to be in the healthy range of body fat. She has every right to feel comfortable in her skin, and fat shaming is pointless (though I am NOT a fan of glorifying obesity…), but the POS angle irritates me a bit. It seems to be used an excuse, and that’s b.s..

MissMarilyn
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MissMarilyn

i agree that we should be celebrating normal healthy bodies but thin bodies are NORMAL for a lot of people. Not every thin girl starves herself to get that way.

Rosa
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Rosa

She can say whatever she wants, but the fact is she’s overweight and it’s not ok to be so, just as it’s not alright to be anorexic-ly thin.

She’s fat and needs to lose some weight and no amount of self-acceptance is going to change that fact. Unless, she has health problems that cause her to be overweight, she has no excuse. Put the fork down and lay off the fatty foods.

Rosa
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Rosa

*Correction: Apparently she has polycistic ovarian syndrome. So do other people I know of and they don’t look like her. Nothing but excuses…

JJ
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JJ

She doesn’t have to lose weight if she doesn’t want to. But why should society be forced to say, “Oh, you’re so cute!”

Emilie
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Emilie

Because she is pretty. Who says that society forces you to say she is cute

JJ
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JJ

SHE wants society to say it.

Nat Shermans
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Nat Shermans

Nice positive message but fat acceptance is INCREDIBLY disturbing.

Being a poster child for a rare disorder & social acceptance VS. Standing against fat shame because you have a disease…There is a difference.
Her story should make people with polycystic ovarian syndrome feel better about their body condition. And that’s it. Not obese people in general.

mary
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mary

Agreeeeed. For the women who sadly suffer from this disease and have legit barriers to losing weight, being able to relate to a confident person who is not ashamed of her body is great…….. On the other hand, there is no excuse that a disease free young woman should be as big as the girl above. I was heavy for the first 2 decades of my life, and made excuses and tried to justify it until I developed high BP. When I made changes and stuck to them, I lost 50 pounds slowly and maintained it for 5 years. So… Read more »

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

So true

Peach
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Peach

I know she was highly requested, but does having a non-celeb on here make anyone else feel a little uncomfortable? Like, it’s one thing to critique people in the spotlight who make a living off their image but this is an ‘ordinary’ person. I know people will say ‘well, she put herself out there so she should expect it’, but it’s strange to see a mere mortal (like us)!

imo, anyway. Maybe I’m overthinking it?

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

It would be weird if it was a private photo that somehow got leaked, but like you said, she put herself out there, of course people are going to comment.

Emilie
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Emilie

Well when you put it that way, feels wrong doesn’t it? Imagine if she put our pics on here, lol.

serena
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serena

Yeah I agree Peach, I feel uncomfortable with it because she’s a teen taking pics of herself at home, not a model. But commenting on anything she said in the quote is fair game of course, since she said it on her public blog and the Today show.

misscheeks
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misscheeks

Regardaless of what she looks like or the state of her health (health is not just physical anyway, so many people are physically healthy but emotional and spiritually the opposite and it’s something that’s very personal imo),bullying and body-bashing is unjustified and everyone deserves to love their body irrespective of what it looks like *shrugs* How can you even begin to treat your body right if you don’t hate every inch of it? I know people who have cut, starved, abused and even tried to kill themselves because of bullies taunting their bodies, that’s plain wrong…idgaf how fat or skinny… Read more »

misscheeks
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misscheeks

* Regardless

*if you hate every inch of it

…shaming them isn’t the answer, period.

Hazal
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Hazal

Thanks for this brilliant comment Misscheeks! I fully agree!

annabanana
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annabanana

i agree misscheeks. The issue of health being not only physical, but mental, emotional, spiritual etc as well, and a very personal thing, is something many commenters don’t take into account. For example, I am not exercising at the moment because I am in recovery and need to focus on eating right without burning extra calories. Not exercising is the right choice for me mentally (not having pressure, pushing myself, feeling like I’m not good enough how I am, thoughts which exercise can trigger for me), and physically (weight maintenance). But sometimes I feel really bad because I am not… Read more »

Irene
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Irene

I wish you full recovery and good health.
I cannot be physically active enough now due to health issues, and my lost weight starts to return. After a couple of years of dedicated fitness trainings, now one of my biggest dreams is to be in such a good condition some time that I’ll be able to hit a gym again 🙂

misscheeks
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misscheeks

Good luck on your recovery! 🙂

MissMarilyn
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MissMarilyn

I’m in recovery too!! So I understand what you’re going through. Good luck <3 feel free to message me if you want to talk about any of it haha

MissMarilyn
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MissMarilyn

agree so so so so so much. The importance of mental health is often not talked about haha. And body-shaming of any size needs to stop.

Sidney
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Sidney

I think her message is great. She might have her health issues with the weight, but it is no reason to love the way you look, and love yourself. Also when it comes to bettering yourself or your health, from my own experience it’s easier to do with kindness not disgust over yourself. I have very overweight friends who struggle with it, they try to lose weight and sure, they eat a lot of crap too when they cave, but that doesn’t make them any lesser. I have my own problems, my unhealthy habits etc, so do they. I don’t… Read more »

misscheeks
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misscheeks

” Also when it comes to bettering yourself or your health, from my own experience it’s easier to do with kindness not disgust over yourself. ”

Agreed!

Katie
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Katie

I agree with everything you said. I have polycystic ovarian syndrome plus hypothyroidism and hypoglycemia. I have a similar body shape to her (thanks to the hormones messed up by PCOS and genetics, I store a lot of weight in my stomach and you can tell when my meds work to make the sensitivities change because I gain a waist). Even though I’ve lost 70 lbs with near-obsessive calorie counting (only grilled chicken or steak plus broccoli and avocado, maybe some eggs) and 3+ hours of exercise a day (weight loss took 5 years), it is tremendously hard to lose… Read more »

misscheeks
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misscheeks
Lovisa
Member

naw, too cute 🙂

Irene
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Irene

congratulations on great results of your weight loss journey! 🙂 having faced some of these conditions, I know that keeping fit it is very good for your health.
and thanks for sharing, because it is an inspiration for me. 5 years may seem like quite a long time, but it is worth it. I have mentioned in a comment here earlier, every person has their own situation. we cannot judge anybody, because, for starters, we simply don’t know how it is for them. on the contrary, any efforts within the current situation are worthy of support.

Emilie
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Emilie

wow. some guys are a–holes.

jenna
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jenna

Nice job on being committed to losing weight, even in the face of being sick. I too struggle with an underactive thyroid, and so I understand what you mean when you say that you have to be obsessive with calories and clean eating, and obsessive with lots of exercise, only to be still a bit overweight. And I know two girls who have PCOS, and they eat clean and run every day, yet they too are not ever able to get to their ideal weight. It’s very hard to even stay motivated when you have to work THAT hard to… Read more »

Casey
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Casey

Whatever I have to say, at the end of it, I agree with her. People need to understand that body acceptance is something that is both tied to, but also independent of health. You can be healthy, but emotionally unhappy with how you look. You can be unhealthy and happy. The point is, from a simply emotional standpoint, I think everyone should learn how to accept themselves. That being out of the way, I was going to comment on two more things: 1) I think it’s important to note what kind of thin we are talking about here. She is… Read more »

Calia
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Calia

Agree completely, Casey. And the process you outlined was exactly mine. Like misscheeks was saying, it’s very difficult for most people to lose weight while hating every inch of their bodies. Once you love and accept yourself, you can start working towards a healthier, better life.

misscheeks
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misscheeks

I’ve noticed that your comments are always very level-headed and reasonable. I may not always agree (I do in this case though) but it’s just something I’ve noticed. 😉

Casey
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Casey

Thank you misscheeks. I feel the same way about your comments. 🙂

Nika
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Nika

I wish I saw this before I posted. I fully agree, Casey.

Bellerina
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Bellerina

Bullying needs to stop period. I was a healthy weight as a child but I was bullied because I wore hand me downs. Why don’t we forget about this single issue of size or whatever and just promote tolerance in schools? It’s not about weight or PCOS effects, its bullying thats the problem. Children need some guidance as well as trust worthy adults they can talk to. Lets end these petty superficial focused pride movements and learn how to appreciate the things that matter about each other and stop hate in all ages.

Tia
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Tia

I am always torn on this subject. To a certain point we should all be happy with ourselves. But this whole “born this way” mentality can turn us into lazy, self-satisfied people who never make an effort to improve themselves (whether it is health-wise, career-wise or personality-wise). I really believe that nobody should be taunted or ostrasized because of their looks. But that doesn’t mean I agree with people who are complacent with their size. To me, the people who promote “BODY CONFIDENT” are the ones who are least happy with their bodies.I understand the message this lady is trying… Read more »

TT
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TT

Well I’m sure she is happy, but she’s probably not healthy. I highly doubt she follows a healthy exercise/diet routine. While I champion her for her body confidence which so many of us women need, she probably is not truly healthy. And we must distinguish between being curvy and being overweight. Just because you are overweight, doesn’t mean you are automatically curvy. She is overweight and I probably sure her doctor has told her that she needs to lose weight. There’s no amount of happiness that can change that fact. I am an overweight person who was told by my… Read more »

JJ
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JJ

It’s fake confidence, though. She’s not happy and I bet she’d give anything if she could be thin tomorrow.

tr
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tr

This is such a large generalisation. I was once below 45 kg at 5’3″, looked very thin ad modelesque but was the unhappiest I had ever been. Now I’m about 15 kg more than that and am as happy as a person can be. Pinning weight on a person’s self-worth and happiness is such a shallow way of thinking.

annabanana
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annabanana

yes, i agree- happiness comes from a fulfilling life and good relationship with yourself. not appearance.

JJ
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JJ

Regardless of what she says, she’s not happy with herself. No one is happy being as overweight as she is, especially with stretch marks all over. People who are truly happy with themselves don’t feel a need to post pictures of themselves and angrily screech, “My body is a revolution!” “I’m not going to stand for that!”

If she doesn’t want to lose weight, fine. But she’s kidding herself if she thinks society admires her or thinks she’s hot. She’s just a fat girl.

Rosie
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Rosie

You have a point. I do feel that girls that post pictures of themselves like this on places like facebook are seeking something. As you may or may not know I’m fresh out of High School, and when I would visit my facebook girls would post pictures of themselves in suggestive poses and clothes and then they’d message you or put in the caption something like… “Like this”. There are a few girls that I use to be close to and they’re doing it too, one becaue she doesn’t feel pretty the other because she wants to be popular amongst… Read more »

Rosie
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Rosie

But for the girl that was thirsty for popularity it all ended and she ended up looking stupid when she got her a– beat in the middle of the street.

JJ
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JJ

My daughter is in high school, and I see this all the time on her Facebook page. The same girls take suggestive poses of themselves and ask for “likes,” or wait for all their friends to say, “Oh you’re so pretty!” Even my daughter thinks it’s sad and desperate.

neutra
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neutra

Yuh huhhh! If you’re truly happy, then please be quiet.

kiwi
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kiwi

this is so redundant

cass
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cass

Let’s be honest, in society today, who actually takes note of ones health? You’re either too thin, thin, overweight, or obese. That’s how you’re judged, by appearance. In the long run, one will only be healthy when THEY decide to be, so enough judging others. This matter is really an “each to their own” one. If she’s comfortable and loves herself, that’s a strength that not many women have, regardless of their looks. Its her choice however, to be healthy (if she’s not already)

cass
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cass

Let’s be honest, in society today, who actually takes note of ones health? You’re either too thin, thin, overweight, or obese. That’s how you’re judged, by appearance. In the long run, one will only be healthy when THEY decide to be, so enough judging others. This matter is really an “each to their own” one. If she’s comfortable and loves herself, that’s a strength that not many women have, regardless of their looks. Its her choice however, to be healthy (if she’s not already) and @JJ, just because YOU wouldn’t be happy overweight, doesn’t mean everyone would. Not all of… Read more »

cass
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cass

Let’s be honest, in society today, who actually takes note of ones health? You’re either too thin, thin, overweight, or obese. That’s how you’re judged, by appearance. In the long run, one will only be healthy when THEY decide to be, so enough judging others. This matter is really an “each to their own” one. If she’s comfortable and loves herself, that’s a strength that not many women have, regardless of their looks. Its her choice however, to be healthy (if she’s not already) and @JJ, just because YOU wouldn’t be happy overweight, doesn’t mean everyone wouldnt. Not all of… Read more »

cassie
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cassie

Let’s be honest, in society today, who actually takes note of ones health. You’re either too thin, thin, overweight, or obese. That’s how you’re judged, by appearance. In the long run, one will only be healthy when THEY decide to be, so enough judging others. This matter is really an “each to their own” one. If she’s comfortable and loves herself, that’s a strength that not many women have, regardless of their looks. Its her choice however, to be healthy (if she’s not already) and @JJ, just because YOU wouldn’t be happy overweight, doesn’t mean everyone wouldnt. Not all of… Read more »

c
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c

Let’s be honest, in society today, who actually takes note of ones health. You’re either too thin, thin, overweight, or obese. That’s how you’re judged, by appearance. In the long run, one will only be healthy when THEY decide to be, so enough judging others. This matter is really an “each to their own” one. If she’s comfortable and loves herself, that’s a strength that not many women have, regardless of their looks. Its her choice however, to be healthy (if she’s not already) and @JJ, just because YOU wouldn’t be happy overweight, doesn’t mean everyone wouldnt. Not all of… Read more »

JJ
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JJ

I’m not sure which one of your many identical comments to reply to, but as I said, she is NOT happy with herself, or there would be no need to post the picture, along with her militant, angry comments.

urs
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urs

Agree!

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

So true. I highly doubt, that if given the chance, this girl wouldn’t jump to be a size 4 or 6. No amount of photos or is going to convince me, or many others, that she’s happy with her body.

annabanana
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annabanana

the thing is , there is a difference between being a happy person and being happy with your body. someone might not 100% be happy with their body for whatever reason, but still be a very happy person because they love their life and have a good relationship with themselves!

jenna
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jenna

Dont you get it? She’s saying that since she has PCOS and cannot be a size 4 or 6, rather than hate her own body, she is trying to love and embrace it for what it is. I see nothing wrong with that!

JJ
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JJ

There are drugs to treat her PCOS, just like there are drugs to treat underactive thyroid, and every other medical condition people use as excuses for being overweight.

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

It is possible to be smaller then she without having to become a 4 or a 6. And, she sounds very defensive which makes me think that she is not happy with her body at all. And I know this is not PC, but I will go ahead and say it. No way anyone that looks like that can love their body.

tr
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tr

I look similar to that, maybe a dress size or two smaller and I love my body, because it’s healthy and I always keep in mind how lucky I am to have a functioning and hearty body that allows me to do everything from hike up a mountain to swim for 2 hours straight while there are so many people on this earth who never had the blessing of even being able to walk, my cousin being one of them. I couldn’t care less what my body looks like as long as it functions the way I want it to… Read more »

Aafje
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Aafje

And you would know if she is happy how? You just assume that no fat person can be happy? You don’t know her, don’t act like you know her true feelings.

JJ
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JJ

Again, happy people don’t post pictures of themselves and screech, “If you don’t like it, F off!”

Aafje
Member
Aafje

You wouldn’t know that, not all people are the same. Don’t make assumptions

JJ
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JJ

I do know that.

lc
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lc

It’s good that she’s happy, but I have a hard time believing she is physically healthy.

serena
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serena

She’s not physically healthy, she has a disease (polycystic ovarian syndrome). I know a girl who was diagnosed with PCOS and eventually needed to have her ovaries removed, but that was an extreme case. It can really be awful and impact your fertility though.

heathers
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heathers

What a truly beautiful thing. Loving yourself regardless of what OTHER people feel is beautiful or “perfect” or “ideal”. I find those who struggle daily over calories and body issues far more SICK than the ones who have a truly healthy relationship with themselves. Being morbidly obese and being obsessed with skinny imo is the exact same thing. Skinny does NOT = healthy. Healthy = healthy. Mind body and soul.

lena
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lena

I agree, Heathers.

Mara
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Mara

I first read your name as “lc” and was extremely suprised to read the positive response.

(Sorry, lc, I swear I’m not bashing you & respect your opinion, just thought it was funny in a random way 😀 )

janae
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janae

When I first saw this post, I thought “good for her” and never thought any adult could have anhthing negative to say about this. However, after reading some of the comments there are many good points here about this possibly praising being over weight or making people think “oh I’m fine the way I am so I don’t need to be healthy”. And I think there may be some validity to that. But only with people that have mental issues with their body image- just like some pro-ana people may use pics of people at unhealthy low weights as inspiration,… Read more »

serena
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serena

Stella goes to my college and her Facebook page seems to have hundreds and hundreds of pictures of herself posing in various outfits…honestly, I get the impression she’s a bit of an attention seeker. Posing in your skivvies is not inciting a “revolution”. Nowadays 2/3 Americans are overweight/obese so she represents the norm. She seems like a nice girl but with so much free time, maybe volunteer or do research for a good cause? That would be more revolutionary than taking selfies in your bra 😉

lena
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lena

It’s not only her. A lot of girls seem to enjoy taking pictures of themselves and posting them online. Regardless of their size.

serena
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serena

Yeah, like I said, nothing revolutionary about taking pics of yourself in your underwear 😀 I see, hear, and read about young people doing amazing things everyday but this is not one of them.

lena
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lena

I get what you mean 😉

Emilie
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Emilie

I don’t see a lot of pics of people that aren’t thin that are full bodied in bikinis or their underwear online.. are these ppl you see overweight.

Dani
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Dani

I hope that you guys can look at the comments and see what’s going on here. The real truth is we are uncomfortable seeing fat bodies. We are especially uncomfortable seeing happy, confident fat people because we are too busy hating ourselves. If we can’t love ourselves as we are, how dare someone like Stella not be miserable like us? Please stop fat shaming and confront the issues you have with fat. Whether it be that you believe fat people are lazy, or unclean, or that fat women are unfeminine and large, or that you associate it with people who… Read more »

Everyone deserves happiness
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Everyone deserves happiness

Same. I find it funny when people claim to care about a stranger’s health and how this altruism arises when a person is fat. No one walks by a smoker and worries that they’re unhealthy. No one sees a picture of a model smoking an worries that they’re unhealthy. We are uncomfortable with fat people. nobody should be bullied because of the way they look. Good on her for being comfortable in her skin. And there are happy fat people. I find that for most overweight people that are genuinely unhappy lose weight and are still unhappy. A lot of… Read more »

serena
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serena

Hey Dani, please stop projecting your insecurities onto us. I’m not uncomfortable looking at Stella – she’s the norm, isn’t she? Chubby, but hardly huge. The reality is women are uncomfortable looking at supermodels; that’s what provokes feelings of insecurity and eating disorders. You talk about being miserable and hating your body, and that’s sad, but again, please stop projecting your feelings onto most women who in fact don’t hate their bodies. Actually plus-sized women can be just as confident as thin girls, does that surprise you? And @Everyonedeservehappiness – you made me laugh with your comment that no one… Read more »

Aafje
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Aafje

No I think what she is saying is that we know smoking is unhealthy but we don’t pretend to care about strangers who smoke like some people pretend to care about fat strangers health because smoking doesn’t have unattractive side effects like being obese does. So we really only “care” about strangers health because it is aesthetically unpleasing to us.

serena
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serena

That makes more sense Aafje. But if a model were to do an interview talking about health but openly smoke cigarettes we would all call her out on it, right? I mean no one here genuinely cares about Stella’s health but she shoved her medical issues and weight in our face so to speak. It is ultimately her business though.

Aafje
Member
Aafje

Yes some people would probably call her out, but others wouldn’t care because she is pretty and thin.

C
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C

You have no understanding of eating disorders if you think that’s the cause. It sets the standard that skinny is “in control” and better than fat, but so do other forms of media. Really, in my case, a very stressful personal experience provoked my anorexia nervosa. I had no desire to look like a supermodel, lol.

JJ
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JJ

Personally, I would never say anything about anyone’s weight, as it’s not my business, and really, what’s the point in hurting someone’s feelings? But having said that, I find fat to be unattractive. It’s not an “issue,” it’s how I feel. I didn’t look at the overweight girl with stretch marks in a bikini and think, “Oh how cute!” I thought, “Ewww.”

Emilie
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Emilie

Are you 12?

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

What a stupid response.

JJ
Guest
JJ

In what way was my comment juvenile?

Emilie
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Emilie

Everyone has their own opinions, so I apologize for my response. I think it was the “the overweight girl with stretch marks. Eww ” But to each their own.

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

How do you know that she’s happy and confident? Because she posted a picture of herself in underwear on the internet? A lot of people do that, regardless of their size. It actually reeks of desperation and the need to be validated by others.

Winnie
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Winnie

i have to say, i kind of agree with you…her point would have been just as validated without the undie pic

Nika
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Nika

There is a positve and negative side to every situation. Just as she would have received praise for this, there would also be criticism. The reality is, both sides bring up some important points. I think she is brave and I admire how confident she seems. The message she is sending is one of self-acceptance, in other words, loving yourself regardless of your flaws. ALL of us should love our bodies, even if it isn’t ‘perfect’ or ‘ideal.’ No matter what, positive thinking is essential. That however, does not imply that if we are unhealthy, we should disregard it and… Read more »

Melissa
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Melissa

People talk about health but the simple fact is 99 percent of people will say Charlize vs the fat woman. Being fat isn’t seen as attractive , deal with it. Harsh but true, it’s how we all feel.

JJ
Guest
JJ

Agreed. Everything else is people trying to be politically correct, or wanting to appear as “kind.” Fact is, WHO would want to look like this girl? I have to laugh at the intense criticism that goes on here over some practically flawless model, but then we see a picture of a fat girl and everyone is all, “She looks great!”

Aafje
Member
Aafje

Just because you don’t want to look like someone doesn’t mean you have to be rude to them. I don’t want to be obese but do I go up to fat people and tell them they are gross and should lose weight? No. Because I’m not an asshole.

JJ
Guest
JJ

Now where did I ever say that? I wouldn’t in a million years go up to a fat person and insult them. No one should do that.

Aafje
Member
Aafje

I was talking about all the people she said bullied her throughout her life. She is posting this to stand up to them and tell them to f off. She doesn’t look that great, but that doesn’t mean she cant be happy and proud of herself.

Aafje
Member
Aafje

I apologize if it sounded like I was saying you would be that rude, I was just justifying her need to make such a big statement and pose in her underwear.

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

Agree 1000%

Emilie
Guest
Emilie

No matter if you think it’s attractive or not, she shouldn’t have to feel bad about herself and should be able to post these pics without feeling ashamed or backlash. And some people think that fat is attractive. Perhaps not severely obese, but overweight, chubby, chunky. I mean, that may be a fact for you , but I think many folks may disagree with you

JJ
Guest
JJ

Sure, “many” people find fat attractive. Oh how I wish I had her rolls of fat. And stretch marks! What a lucky girl.

Tomorrow you’ll be here picking apart some beautiful model, and not even seeing past your own BS.

Lana
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Lana

Wow, you are an ugly person.

C
Guest
C

It used to be seen as very attractive. I mean, haven’t you ever seen Venus of Willendorf? Culture norms change of course.

eva
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eva

i like her claiming of her body. I feel that weight is a personal issue.
My weight is just that, MY weight – and you don’t get to talk about it.
Am i overweight? Yes. Is this endangering my health? Maybe. Is it your business? NO. Its my body, my choice and thank you for keeping your opinions to yourself. Don’t find me attractive? Not my problem. You have no claim to my body. You do not get to have an opinion on what my body looks like – its mine, and mine alone.

JJ
Guest
JJ

Yes, we get to have an opinion. Should we tell you that opinion? No, not unless you ask.

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

It’s her body then let her keep it to herself, posting pictures of herself online means that people can and will comment. And btw, your tone sounds like you are pretty miserable about your size, and you come across as defensive. And weight while your weight is a personal issue, try sitting next to a 300 pound woman on an airplane/train/etc and then your weight becomes the problem of the poor bastard sitting next you you as well.

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

*and while your weight

C
Guest
C

Your airplane example was a whiny first world problem…

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

Obesity is also a first world problem.

jenp
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jenp

I grew up with overweight parents (who are now obese) and honestly it hurt me. I was constantly worried about their health and now they are sick with type 2 diabetes. I don’t understand people who neglect their health. Do you think no one loves you or worries about you?

shaun
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shaun

I hate that people try and hold her accountable or says that she is promoting an unhealthy lifestyle. i dont know where anyone gets that idea from. never once did she mention anything like that in her interview. Its this nation skwed sense that unhealthy equals fat. Why not hold these celebrities accounting for promoting unhealthy lifestyles; Rihanna for getting back with chris brown, teaching girls that is ok to be with a man that beats you, gwenthy poltrow, who goes on extreme detox programs bc she wants to loose five pounds off her 95 lbs body for a movie… Read more »

JJ
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JJ

You don’t understand how anyone can call her fat? She isn’t just overweight; she is clinically obese. You can see how much weight she is carrying on her abdomen alone.

Now, if you find her sexy, that’s fine. 99% of men would not, especially those in her age group.

Emilie
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Emilie

“. 99% of men would not, especially those in her age group.” Where is your source for that? you have no idea what men like. Is this guru? That is the dumbest comment I have ever read on this site. EVER. Congrats

JJ
Guest
JJ

I’m talking about here in the US–if you’re from another country, then it might be totally different.

The one fear of young men is having a fat girlfriend. Fact.

kuri
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kuri

In the US, most girlfriends are overweight (thus fat) these days. Maybe many guys would prefer their honey thinner, maybe very few, but that doesn’t seem to prevent relationships. Your theory is ridiculous.

JJ
Guest
JJ

I never said that fat girls don’t have relationships. But the hot guys get the hot girls. The lesser guys have to settle for the overweight girls. You know it’s true.

guru
Guest
guru

lol sorry i dont post under alibis. i think she is right, emilie you sound like you dont have that many male friends, and if you do they are the nerdy liberal arts type of males. red blooded males are attracted to women who have hotness and sexiness. thats human nature and it wont change.

Lala
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Lala

She’s as proportionate as a log.

I’m sorry if that seems catty, its not meant to be. But really…

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

“She is actually very well proportion. and looks as if she carries her weight evenly around her body.”

Ya, evenly like a tire. I’m curious just where she’d have to gain weight for you to find her disproportionate. And you’re not gay man, you’re just a fat girl or a chubby chaser. I don’t know what the hell Rhianna getting her a$$ beat has to do with your rant either.

JJ
Guest
JJ

And being a gay man doesn’t make your opinion count more, FYI. Let’s ask the straight men who go to college with her if they find her “well proportioned and sexy.” I’m pretty sure the answer is NO, or she wouldn’t have posted her picture and angry rant.

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

I know, since when would any woman care what a gay guy thought about her body anyways? imo the opinion of a straight man would matter way more then a gay one.

Emilie
Guest
Emilie

There is more to life than getting a man on a college campus. Loving yourself and having confidence will get you A LOT further in life. Priorities out of whack

JJ
Guest
JJ

You missed the point. No one said that the reason women go to college is to land a man. That’s a bit absurd. I was saying that although gay men might find her sexy, most men her age do not. THAT is why she is so angry.

guru
Guest
guru

look i see where he is coming from. her body is proportionate in that she doesnt have thunder thighs+ narrow waist and huge hips. her hips and shoulders are in line and she doesnt have a cartoonish outline. if she lost weight shed have a slim fashionable figure.

Lisa
Guest
Lisa

She is fat. She’s calling herself fat!

james
Member

I dunno, i’ll stick with having no trouble sitting on or standing up from a chair myself

EmmMD
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EmmMD

Normally I would never comment, but as a mother who’s daughter reads this site and as a doctor i feel like I need to share some of my knowledge. I have been working as a research physician in an obesity clinic at a university up here in Canada for over ten years now. I also practice at a well known eatih disorder clinic so I see both ends of the spectrum. The newest research we are doing is showing that size is not indicative of ones health. We have studies with over 45000 participants that have concluded that the most… Read more »

JJ
Guest
JJ

On the internet, anyone can be anyone they want…

trixiepixie10
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trixiepixie10

Agreed JJ. I’m Canadian and I’ve never heard of this study. It would be great to see the link to that study, because every doctor that I’ve ever been to has explained that a waist size of over 35 inches equals an increased risk of diabetes, heart disease and other serious health issues.

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

Emma, just because you put MD at the end of your name doesn’t actually mean you are one. Your “study” is complete BS. Trying to tell me that a VERY OBESE person can be healthier and cardiovascular fitter then someone in the normal weight range is complete make up junk. Nice try. Most obese people can’t even take a few steps without getting out of breath, and you’re telling me that they are somehow fitter?

Anastasia.
Guest
Anastasia.

I meant Emm, not Emma

EmmMD
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EmmMD

I didn’t say all people i said that size was not indicative of health in those people leading healthy active lifestyles. I see it everyday in my job, whether you believe what i do or not doesn’t bother me. Here is a link where one of the studies is discussed in the Ottawa Citizen about better health outcomes for obese patients: http://www.ottawacitizen.com/health/Obesity+some+healthy+others/7610806/story.html Heres the other link to the study that had over 40000 participants, it was internationally collected data. Its been published in several Canadian publication but firstly in the European Heart Journal, a simplified description is found here in… Read more »

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

You provided 2 links to support your views, what about the hundreds of studies/doctors/nurses who all say that being overweight to obese is a big contributor to heart disease, cancer, diabetes, and a host of other problems? Should all that be disregarded? And while a few obese people can be metabolically healthier then someone that’s not obese, this is not true for the vast majority of obesity cases. And my personal point of view is this. Every day, going out and about to restaurants, fast food places, and anywhere with food, I have yet to see an obese person eating… Read more »

lol
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lol

EmmMD comes out with the exact same claptrap that erica comes out with. All these so called studies can be put upon the internet by anyone.

Ilona
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Ilona

This is a person who backs up her comment with actual studies and still it is not good enough for you. Any one can put this up? Really that is your excuse because the studies do not back up YOUR opinion? These are legitimate studies on legitimate sites. This just show how hateful you really are. You just want to hate and hide behind ‘health’ or other pathetic reasons. No you do not know if this girl is really unhealthy. Read the studies. You just like putting people down, like a bully, to make yourself feel better. That is it.… Read more »

lol
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lol

The bully here is you erica.

jenna
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jenna

Anastasia, Emm said that it was overweight people who exercise and eat a pretty balanced diet who can be healthy. Try reading & comprehending before responding.

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

Emm said “The studies also showed that some people who could be considered VERY OBESE who followed the latter ( exercise 3+ times a week, healthy caloric intake) were actually cardiovascularly fitter and overall healthier that a “normal” person.”

And I said “Trying to tell me that a VERY OBESE person can be healthier and cardiovascular fitter then someone in the normal weight range is complete made up junk”

Your comment has zilch to do with what I actually said. Maybe next time actually read my comment before opening your trap.

EmmMD
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EmmMD

Actually it can be possible.. According to BMI I qualify as obese im five foot three and weigh 187 pounds. I wear a size ten jeans, but i am fit, I just completed my fifth marathon this year last month, but if you saw me in clothes you may think I look “big” or unhealthy. This is all new research we are coming out with, and it takes a lot to change the was we’ve been taught to think about obesity for so long. Its important to view my comments in the context that as a doctor who specializes in… Read more »

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

@EmmMD. Sorry Emm, trying to tell me that at 5”3 and nearly 200 pounds that you’re somehow fit…. that’s INCREDIBLY hard to believe, but I guess miracles can happen. It would be the same as a 90 pound 6’3 woman telling me she’s fit/healthy. It just doesn’t happen. And to add, I really don’t see how someone can become 187 pounds by running marathons, eating healthy etc. How did you become obese in the first place?

kc123
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kc123

EW. she’s OBESE. obesity has a ton of health complications. she needs to lose weight. put down the donuts.

serena
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serena

I just want to add that women with PCOS often suffer from excessive body hair, like they grow body hair as men do (thick hair on arms, chest, face). So Stella may have been teased for that as a teenager. Maybe that is why she comes across as very sensitive about her body. Being chubby plus hairy is a recipe for teasing.

tannis
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tannis

PCOS increases your testosterone level which often creates hypothyroidism. As a woman with PCOS I gained 43 lbs in 3 mont. Your hormones become so out of whack. I was given medicine & it took 18 months to find a good combination for my body. End of sotry. Most of you ladies sound dtupid when you speak about PCOS

jenna
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jenna

Agreed tannis. These posters most likely have never had to deal with PCOS, hypothyroidism, or hormonal issues. Wait until some of these obviously young people hit their 30’s and 40’s, when a lot of women tend to get problems with thyroid and hormones and they gain weight NO MATTER how much they exercise of how controlling they are over their diet. Then I’d like to hear their comments about how being fat is just being lazy.

Jenny-Anne Jett
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Jenny-Anne Jett

Just so long as neither she or anyone else hates on slim girls : ) Hating on anyone isn’t cool

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

No point in feigning concern for her health, I don’t give a damn. But there’s no way I will ever believe that a young girl can get that big by eating right and staying moderately active. Those stretchmarks tell a different story. If she wants to believe her own BS, that’s fine, but I doubt many others will. Get to the gym and eat less, POS may cause you to gain weight, but she didn’t get that big from having POS alone. And I don’t even know if she has POS, it may be that she’s lying about it,and just… Read more »

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

*PCOS

JJ
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JJ

I’m with you. The excuses are always hormones, or thyroid, or something else completely out of their control–as if medications don’t exist to treat their alleged conditions.

She doesn’t look good, she knows she doesn’t look good, but instead of working on it, she’s having a “body revolution” and just given up. Well, goody. Give up all you want, but don’t force the rest of us into thinking you’re hot.

jenna
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jenna

JJ – you obviously have absolutely no idea what you’re talking about. Medications do not always help people with “alleged conditions”. I had hypothryoidism and was put on medication to treat it. Instead of getting better, I got worse. All of my symptoms kept getting more out of control the more my Dr’s messed with meds. And why? Because some people have problems with their adrenal glands and when you put a person like that on meds to “speed up” their thyroid, it puts too much stress on your adrenal glands and makes all of your conditions worse. The only… Read more »

JJ
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JJ

You just proved my point. There ARE ways of treating your condition, as I clearly stated. Medication solved your problem, and now you are at a normal weight. Thanks for backing me up! Case closed.

jenna
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jenna

No i just said that traditional western prescription medication didn’t help my problem and that is what most people end up taking unfortunately. The Rx made it worse by giving me an additional health problem (adrenal fatigue). So the medications made me worse. I spent 2 years trying to get better but only getting worse. It wasn’t until I went an alternative route (which most people do not know alternative methods of treatment are even possible) that I was able to start getting better. It’s funny to me how you seem to think you’re an authority on this topic &… Read more »

JaneParker
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JaneParker

Am I the only one who doesn’t think she’s morbidly obese? I’m pretty sure that although she would be overweight in terms of BMI she’s not fat enough to be considered obese. I feel like we’re so used to idolizing skinniness that we automatically see some fat rolls and throw the word “obese” around. Now I’m not saying she isn’t fat, but I don’t think she’s exactly a walking heart attack. I like her message. It’s not about promoting fat, it’s about promoting acceptance. It IS her body after all. Bullying is never ok, shaming is never ok. I was… Read more »

binks
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binks

No, because I am not seeing obese either. I believe everyone should love and accept themselves no matter what stage of life they are in. I get that everyone aesthetics aren’t the same and everyone has their ideal but the thing about beauty is there is more than one type! So nobody should be bullied to the point of emotional pain. I don’t see this cause as fat celebration but fighting against the grain.

serena
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serena

@Jane – Keep in mind 1 out of 3 Americans is obese. It’s common to be obese; it doesn’t mean you’re HUGE, just very overweight. I know overweight people in my family who look much smaller than this girl. So Stella is most certainly obese. But BMI is just a guideline. Something else to consider is where the fat is concentrated – around her midsection, the worst place. Her stomach is so distended it left permanent stretch marks. People with such large stomachs often have undiagnosed digestive issues (IBS, Celiacs, etc). I agree with everything you said about bullying. Picking… Read more »

lol
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lol

LOL at the hypocrites here. The same people saying we shouldn’t shame overweight people are he very same people who pick apart Kate Upton for having no waist.
Practice what you preach.

neutra
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neutra

The original article she wrote just completely repelled me against any message she was trying to get across. Just because you feel hard done by doesn’t mean you can then go and throw atrocious language and bitter remarks back at those perpetrators. “THIS IS MY BODY, DEAL WITH IT. And ALL who tried to degrade my being and sense of self with your hurtful comments and actions. GUESS WHAT IT DIDN’T WORK HAHAHAHAH.” Perhaps if she handled herself in an eloquent manner, I’d respect her. But unfortunately all I see her as is a very resentful person. It’s either skinny… Read more »

Cecil
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Cecil

fat chicks post themselves on tumblr all the time in bikinis… WHY IS THIS REVOLUTIONARY?!?!

I don’t find her body shocking either, fat people in skimpy clothing never bothered me. It isn’t attractive to me but it’s just layers of extra energy stored over a body.

Lisa
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Lisa

Yeah, just go to stophatingyourbody for pages and pages of it. I kind of eye rolled at revolutionary even though she was being tongue-in-cheek.

lol
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lol

Victoria Beckham has POS and we all know how skinny she is. This girl isn’t going to help other people back off by shoving her own body type down everyones throats.
That is asking for trouble. Nobody forced her to do this photo.

Anastasia.
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Anastasia.

Agree

C
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C

She is not shoving her own body type down our throats. That’s hyperbole if I ever heard it, and it’s very indicative of your discomfort in regard to fat people. I’d say you have some issues you need to work out. 🙂

Maja Pontoppidan
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Maja Pontoppidan

I’m from Denmark, and I’ve got PCOS myself. PCO is when you “only” have some sort of problem with your sex hormones getting out of balance, but when it’s PCOS you also have at least two out of these three things: No periods or irregular periods, high level of testosterone and small cysts on your ovaries. Luckily I don’t have a high level of testorone and I can live a completely normal life, but with that said it is EXTREMELY important to maintain a normal weight and a healthy lifestyle if you suffer from PCO or PCOS. It’s brave of… Read more »

April
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April

I think anyone who claims to have a clue what “men” in general want is a moron, so that would be about a good half of you…

Olivia
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Olivia

I believe that you cannot lose weight until you start loving your body and accepting it. But I also believe that obesity should not be praised. Here is what is wrong with this: I love this idea! Love your body and accept it. It’s great. But if you stopped to think about it… we NEVER actually had healthy role models. Sure we get celebrities who claim to eat healthy and models but working in the fashion industry I can tell you how many of them cut their calories still. No, I’m talking real people who live healthy lives. Anybody here… Read more »

Jacky Daniels
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Jacky Daniels

yea true, we never had healthy role models bla bla but what about parents, grandparents, smart cousin, a friend..? why a model or actress you dont even know has to be your role model? thats so dumb annyway.

Jacky Daniels
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Jacky Daniels

so girl is tat. whatevery. her choice. i think that is the point. b*** , im not going to kill myself because i dont have a hot body and i exist too. i think that is the point. if i have to look skinny a–holes an pu**ys all over internet(and im not a lesbian), then you can look mine too. so i say ok, good for her. plus obesity is ilness. you cant cure sick people by pointing fingers at them or hating them. americans. you should as well shoot your ill and old people with your arsenal of guns… Read more »

Sarah
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Sarah

eeewwww… so fat, so ugly!!!

C
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C

Stop projecting.