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Fit Mom Maria Kang Asks: “What’s your excuse?”

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Maria Kang is niot exactly a celebrity, but this story deserves a post: this fit 32 year-old Californian mother of three has spurred a social backlash after posting a picture with her toned flat stomach showing while asking the question: “What’s Your Excuse?”. The reason why the photo has attracted national attention is that many seem to think that Maria is trying to shame overweight mothers / women. After the firestorm, the fit mom of three (who says that she is not naturally thin and works out a lot to look this way), posted on her Facebook page:

I’ve been getting an influx of new followers, emails and comments (on my profile pic) recently. Some saying I’m a bully, I’m fat-shaming and I need to apologize for the hurt I’ve caused women. I get it. SO here’s my First and Final Apology:

I’m sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won’t go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two business’, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer. I won’t even mention how I didn’t give into cravings for ice cream, french fries or chocolate while pregnant or use my growing belly as an excuse to be inactive.

What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s Yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life. You can either blame, complain or obtain a new level of thought by challenging the negative words that come out of your own brain.

With that said, obesity and those who struggle with health-related diseases is literally a ‘bigger’ issue than this photo. Maybe it’s time we stop tip-toeing around people’s feelings and get to the point.

So What’s Your Excuse?

What’s your take on this story?

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k
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My excuse is that looking hot isn’t my priority. I feel good, am healthy and enjoy my life. So to each is own, that’s all.

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AlyssaMoh

Totally.
This article is the sterilized version. Some people’s responses were things like “i was diagnosed with thyroid cancer 4 months after my pregnancy. I’m trying to stay alive right now” and other were “I went through post partum and my meds are making me gain weight”

not everyone is the same, has the same goals or even has appearance as their top priority. And they shouldn’t. Its what we as women are fighting so much for – the choice, the ability to chose and not to be punished for our choices, especially from other women.

natalija
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natalija
There are extreme excuses, but this lady is right. I think we all have far more control over ourselves then people make out. For example cancers thrive in an acid environment, stress and negative emotion contribute to an acid environment, as well as processed foods, cigarettes etc. It would have takem that lady many years of abusing her body to develop thyroid cancer. As with the post pardum depression, I bet she was doing much of the same. In thr end in my opinion we are exactly who and where we wanna be. Yes it is hard to be healthy… Read more »
solaxia
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solaxia
Yes, we all do have choices to an EXTENT. However, that is missing the point. Just because a woman doesn’t look like a fitness model, does not mean she is not healthy or looking after her body! Seriously some fitness models have severely unhealthy eating habits! Cutting all carbs and WATER from their diet 3 days before comp. Some don’t eat carbs in the form of fruit or grains or veggies (where’s the fibre!…hello bowel cancer!). However, they look like Maria and possibly even better and ‘fitter’…doesn’t mean they are any healthier than the mum that eats a clean diet,… Read more »
natalija
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natalija
I dont think I shamed people once, I simply wrote we are more powerful then we make out to be. Recognising mistakes allows for future growth. And not once did I even hint that the way someone looks has anything to do with their health. In fact i even shared my own experience of when i was at my thinnest yet my digestive system had been destroyed. My entire point is that if everyone lived more conciously and took respnsibilty for themselves then we would all be both a physically and mentally healthier race. There is no shame in failure… Read more »
natalija
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natalija

But I suppose once again, the way you take my comments is entirely up to you. I know myself that I am not judging, I simply think every sencond of our lives is a choice.

j
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i agree with that. my bf is a fitness fanatic, and a trainer. i will say that a LOT of trainers abuse themselves to look that way. they eat a very limited amount of carbs. an amount that deprives brain of fuel. they are also extremely sensitive when it comes to food. even angry at times…healthy, yes?

Erica
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I love this comment solaxia – just perfect! I do not understand why people expect others to have the same goals and attitudes as themselves. As you say, it’s good for her that she is achieving her goals and is proud of herself, but why does she have to proclaim that by rubbing people’s faces in their own issues? Maybe they don’t see looking like a personal trainer as an important goal in life – maybe they can be just as good as mother’s, business women and human beings without having a six pack (and we all should know that… Read more »
anonymous
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anonymous

“To me this woman seems vain, insecure and judgemental”

LOL looks who is talking, there is nobody more insecure, vain judgmentel and arrogant that you are. It’s funny how you think she is wrong but you think it is fine for you to poke fun at a womans natural body shape whr etc.. Hypocritical and bitter as per usual. What goals do you have in life? other than being on this site 7 days a week bad mouthing hot women?

MerryHappy
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MerryHappy

I agree with the fitness any size ideology. I have s friend that looks overweight but she’s fitter than I am and can lift and run. She’s in great shape but doesn’t look like Michelle kang.

Isabel
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Isabel

It would have takem that lady many years of abusing her body to develop thyroid cancer. As with the post pardum depression, I bet she was doing much of the same.

Are you seriously implying getting ill is your own fault? -..-

Maura
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Maura

You are completely incorrect in what you said about cancer being linked to negative emotions and an acidic environment…if that were true women would get all the cancers since we’re more acidic. Lol no offense but please take a basic biology course, you sound extremely ignorant about molecular bio and cancer.

However I do agree with your overall message that we are each responsible for our own health. People make so many excuses rather than take responsibility. Not everyone needs to look like a fitness model but what’s alarming is how many are obese and complacent!

cat
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I am happy someone else noticed the lack of understanding of the mechanism(s) of cancer 🙂

Jill
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Jill

For you to link postpartum depression to “years of abusing the body” is shameful. It seems that you have never experienced this mental illness in your family, or you are just ignorant regarding the issue. Maybe placing less emphasis on “excuses” and more emphasis on allowing women to go through the ebbs and flows of life while (gasp!) sometimes making mistakes would be more productive than forever expecting them to keep juggling countless balls without ever dropping one.

Gemmmmbaba
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Gemmmmbaba

Thanks for spreading your sound knowledge, natalija. Next time my friend reminisces about her battle with thyroid cancer in her early teens I will remind her it’s her own fault, the cow should have dropped her poor attitude and quit the bad sh*t.

Seriously
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Seriously
I check this website daily just for the comments. I like understanding how other women truly think and love how the animosity of the internet helps bring out sincerity. When I first saw this, I thought, “Damn girl! You have 3 kids and look great!” Why is there so much pettiness and negativity on this website? You guys are seriously the worst type of people. I shouldn’t have been surprised when I read comment after comment criticizing Maria Kang for being a confident, hard-working, and HEALTHY mother of three; however, with the high importance most of you place on physical… Read more »
Mia
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THANK YOU!!
I love her statement.

I am disgusted with all the negativity. She is clearly talking about a healthy lifestyle, not looking like a fitness model. There is only a small majority who have an excuse, the rest of you just find it easier to settle into a miserable life of eating cake and writing negative comments about peoples bodies.

Trra
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Trra

Great quote about owning your body, your thoughts/ideas, the way that you eat, and your lifestyle. We all have choices regardless of genetics, socioeconomic level, and amount of free time etc.

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AlyssaMoh

actually, socioeconomic level dictates probably 80% of your health outcome.
Look of “the social determinants of health” by Raphael.
Its not a new area of study either. Pretty interesting statistics

lc
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Eh, attention wh-re. good for her, but why does she think anyone should care.

LucyGoose
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LucyGoose
UGHHH I HATE THIS WOMAN. I get it, you found fitness and healthy eating and want to share it with the world. But FYI, NOBODY CARES. I exercise/ eat healthy but I absolutely hate how that conversation turns into a competition every. single. time. People who brag about how healthy they are ARE fat-shaming and body-shaming. Fat people DO exercise and eat healthy. Skinny people DO NOT exercise and eat healthy. You can’t tell just because someone can fit into size 4 jeans. In fact, I can fit into size 4 jeans and was shocked at my recent triglycerides level.… Read more »
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Where exactly does she say anything about weight? Anyone can make excuses for not being their personal best–not just people who are overweight. I’m sure you don’t care, but Maria Kang’s blog explains fitness journey and describes when she struggled with bulimia. She says she maxed out at 150 pounds. Clearly this woman knows a thing or two about weight not necessarily correlating with health. You have a right to your opinion, but do realize you sound exactly like the people she is describing in her non-apology.

Personally I think she is gorgeous and confident (NOT conceited).

ekiel
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ekiel

The problem with people that are  “living their life” is they are a huge cost on society. It’s not fair that health insurance premiums increase for all in part due to the increase cost of caring for the obese. We’ve toughened smoking laws because smoking affects not only the smoker but bystanders, too. Obesity acts in the same way. The fight against obesity does not mean all are expected to br runway models. There are many, many points between these two ends of the spectrum. We take action against all other major health issues, why should obesity be any different?

k
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I think this woman may be a bit of a dbag (haven’t read her blog), but I think you bring up some great points.

I live in a country where health care is free for all and it comes out of my paycheque in a big way each week. I also feel people in North America and the UK need to take a greater responsibility for their health (not just weight-wise).

solaxia
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solaxia
With all due respect, I am sick of hearing the ‘cost to society’. That is just another level of shaming. yes, being OBESE does put a cost onto society. However, so does being overly skinny and not looking after yourself. it goes both ways. Also, pretty sure Lucy said she was fit and healthy. Hey, I went skydiving…I had a ball! IF I injured myself I would have been in public hospital fighting for my life…are you saying I should rule out all activities that COULD harm myself?! Actually…you just reminded me…I was on my treadmill about a month ago… Read more »
Tia
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There’s also the issue that a lot of obese people are under the poverty line and don’t have health insurance and therefore aren’t costing your society a cent.

Erica
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You do realise that overweight and obese people come from all walks of life, right? They are doctors, lawyers, teachers, firefighters, soldiers, etc, etc – saying they are ‘a huge cost to society’ is simplistic. Is obesity a major concern? Yes, of course it is, but comments like this just make it sound like all fat people are is a burden to society without thinking they are often also taxpayers and upstanding citizens who *contribute* much to society as well. Not to mention they are the ones who bear the greatest burden if their health truly fails – the emotional… Read more »
anonymous
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anonymous

It’s funny how erica hate obese people being made fun of yet she thinks it’s perfectly fine for her to make fun of women who don’t have what she thinks is the right body shape. Obese people can help being overweight yet nobody can help being a certain body shape, that is down to genetics. Please stop being such an out and out hypocrite erica. you seem to think it’s only you that is allowed to have feelings. get over yourself you are so arrogant.

anonymous
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anonymous

“imply blaming fat people for it and making them feel like failures is unfair and just plain unhelpful.”

Yet you body shame slim women or women like Adriana Lima all the time. Please shut up.

Lola
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Lola

Your comment is spot on. Nice to know there still people here with bull**** detectors.

Winnie
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Winnie

she makes a good point, and if you found the picture to be THAT offensive, perhaps you’re using it as a scapegoat to thwart off feelings of guilt regarding something else? just my two cents.

lc
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True, Winnie.

lizzilla
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lizzilla
I think even people who have nothing to feel guilty about have every right to resent big ol’ dose of judgment implicit in asking “what’s your excuse”. The true is. You NEVER know. That’s why you shouldn’t make those kinds of assumptions in the first place. 10% bodyfat is not everyone’s first or second priority. People are entitled to their priorities. I think it’s more than fair to judge an individual’s priorities if you happen to know how they live their life, but it’s dangerous to invite those kinds of judgments based only on how someone looks. Should mothers make… Read more »
Alias
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Alias
I don’t see how her picture was supposed to be offensive, motivational at most. Completely agree that obesity is a way bigger issue that people often just ignore. I have come across quite a few overweight people who will not hesitate to shame a thin person and their lifestyle, and say whatever they do is unhealthy or I’ve even been told I “starve myself on purpose”. Quite a few overweight people (NOT ALL of course), at least in the country I reside in (USA), make excuses for themselves. It’s not even about being a certain size, but health, and a… Read more »
wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21

Yeah funny how it’s socially acceptable to ridicule a thin woman about her body to her face.

“Do you even eat?”

“Eat a cheeseburger.”

“Oh my god you’re all bones.”

I’ve heard all that and I’ve had people question my meal choices because I must be starving myself.

Alias
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Alias
I strongly believe that fat shaming or any type of body shaming is wrong. But thin shaming is somehow more acceptable, not considered offensive for some reason. Yes it’s terrible I’ve heard those things as well. There are also some who will even mock me in a nasty voice for not feeling hungry 24/7 or not wanting dessert after eating an already huge meal. Or if they see me eat a big meal they’ll get suspicious that I throw it all up later. If I ever dared to tell someone to “eat less”, which is what most doctors will tell… Read more »
Gabriella
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Gabriella

@Alias @wonderwoman21
I totally agree with you guys. May I add; the funny thing is that the women that get all offended by the image of a fit woman subtitled “what’s your excuse” are most likely the same women who would balantly body-shame me for being skinny. I don’t mean to go all middle-school on this debate, but it does come across as envy and bitterness sometimes.

Let the woman be. If it’s not your priority to look fit and hot, if you allegedly don’t care, why get so worked up about this photo?

Lisa
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Lisa

Also, “you don’t need to work out!” and “why do you even own a scale?”

wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21
When I was younger (middle school/high school) I mostly felt fat even though I was consistently told that I was too skinny or that I didn’t have enough T&A (hip hop culture was huge at the schools I went to, having a large behind was most coveted feature a girl could have). But on the other hand mainstream media and magazines depicted thin women. I remember watching ‘Clueless’ (the tv show) and how tiny Cher’s waist was; I wantes to be that small SO bad! It didnt occur to me that I was a size 3 and already pretty small.… Read more »
MerryHappy
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MerryHappy

That is the comment I hate the most and always get! ‘Why do you work out? You must be naturally thin! ‘
… because I enjoy exercise and want to be strong?

Lisa
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Lisa

gasp, people ENJOY EXERCISE?! I love it, too. Few things compare to being drenched in sweat after a workout.

Alias
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Alias

Yes exactly! Doesn’t matter what size you are it’s simply unhealthy to be on your bum 24 hours a day!

wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21

To me exercise is a release,plus having some muscle and being fit feels (and looks imo) better.

Gigi
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Gigi

I am latino like you wonder. They say that, at least my familia to me. you too thin, eat more. My family is Puerto Rican with mixed Mexican, they suffer from obesity like plenty other latino families. Me and you are likely not thin like those girls on catwalk, just normal size, but latinos find that too thin. People are insensitive, also in other nations

Alias
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Alias
Yes normal sized girls are not immune either. I am actually considered too thin by many, but I’ve noticed that even overweight girls trying to lose weight get discouraged from it sometimes by other overweight people. It’s interesting because in my mother’s family it is the opposite. In Asian countries it is something widely accepted to be skinny since everyone is slim at least, and usually the reverse is true – people will not hesitate to tell you that you need to lose weight, and it’s not rude to call people fat/chubby as their nickname. Maybe it’s a universal mentality… Read more »
wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21

True Gigi, a lot of the comments come from the Latin community and people who subscribe to the “Latinas have curves”stereotype. As if eating an extra serving of enchiladas will give you a J.Lo butt lol, no you have to be built that way/gain that way.

wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21

I took it as a motivational thing about making time and not letting the fact that you had a baby (or babies) be the reason you dont have the body you want. There are plenty of people who complain about their body but make excuses to themselves about why they arent working to change it.

Funny how people are slamming her for “fat shaming” but turn around and ridicule her past bulimia. Hypocritical much?

MerryHappy
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MerryHappy
I think she’s motivational as well. The question is simple: what’s your excuse? She has three toddlers and still works out. Kids are the excuse give, or work or school. I think the fact she challenged that upset people. What excuse do you have if not kids, you know? One of my sister’s has 3 kids and works out 2 hours a day. Her children are not neglected. They just know when mom is working out let her. The other struggles to find time to work out with her 2 kids. Really I know fitness isn’t a priority to get… Read more »
wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21
I definitely felt like it was about time since kids take up so much time (especially 3 little ones close in age). I work full time and am in the last month of pregnancy and I’m still taking time to be active; i switched to low impact cardio (stairmaster/elliptical/walking) and had to cut out some portions of my workout, but i’m still going 😉 Kudos to your busy schedule, not sure I have the mind set to do all that! Lol. The mindset definitely frames interpretation, the negative reactions seem to reflect more about the viewer. Kang isof course selling… Read more »
MerryHappy
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MerryHappy

Congratulations on the baby! ! And staying active through the pregnancy.
I agree, I think she knows it’s hard. People are making her out to be like that gym that throws cupcakes at people and won’t let them in the sauna unless they’re bmi is a certain number.

wonderwoman21
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wonderwoman21

IpThank you!

I work in a gym and the staff and trainersare really friendly; people are afraid of judgment from trainersbut truth is most are friendly,helpful, and professional 🙂

no
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omfg why is this posted here? SO TIRED of seeing it. get over yourself already.

ManBearPig
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ManBearPig

If fitness is a priority to you, you will MAKE time for it and not make excuses. And if you’re one of those people that doesn’t care if you’re fit or not, you shouldn’t be offended because you don’t care…right? She isn’t saying that every mom needs to have a body like hers, she is saying that it is totally possible to be a busy mom AND have a hot body if you really want it.

NatP
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NatP

She is not very lean or defined, she’s short, her face is average. But, she looks better than two thirds of American women who are overweight or obese. Hell, even the one third that’s not overweight or obese, still look like they don’t exercise, most women have zero definition, and too much body fat.

Marike
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Marike

impressive muscle. good for her, helping women to lose weight and become fit if they want to

em
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i don’t agree with her trying to prove herself to the rest of the world, but I do agree with her about the issue of obesity.

lc
Guest

This is how I feel, exactly.

PS
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Attention seeking or not, I agree that tip-toeing around people’s feelings is no solution and I do not think she’s asking anyone to look exactly like her or to be super skinny. So to me it’s not fat shaming but asking people why they’re making excuses for not tackling the problems that bother them. I know women on the bigger side that easily outrun skinny ones when jogging, it’s not about size but about fitness and health. I’m sick of people screaming “discrimination” at such statements. I’m no tall or super skinny supermodel either, I love food, no superfast metabolism… Read more »
Jenny B
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Jenny B

This is why she keeps getting pregnant

Marty
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Marty

I love it! Good on her! Feeling good about the way you look is the first step for s good life. I agree with her.

chris
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chris

i don’t find this offensive. all she’s saying is that if you’re serious about trying lose excess weight, you’ll find a way, and i agree. if anything i see this as motivational…”if she can do it, so can i”

Grazibel
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Grazibel

oh my god come on people…the photo is obviously meant to be fitspo, and it is really good fitspo. If I had just given birth I would want to see this. If other people don’t want fitspo, why can’t they just brush off the photo as something that is not their cup of tea but may be someone else’s? Anyone whose actually offended by this and screaming at her probably needs to be fatshamed to save their health haha. Weight may be a personal preference to some extent but its also a health matter. Chubby isn’t healthy

Emily
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Emily

Depends on what you consider chubby..

Nayree Monzón
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Exactly! I really would love to be a mother one day and I like the fact that there’s someone out there stating for experience that having kids doesn’t necessarily means that I wont be able to look the way I want ever again. I know this woman that with two children, 2years and 8month each, was absolutely ripped, I mean: crazy ripped, which means that yes, she works out but mainly that she has great genetics (and I know for a fact that she doesn’t have another job that taking care of the kids), so the fact that Maria claims… Read more »
Justine
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Justine
I personally do not find her “billboard” offensive, but then again I’m also not overweight and I’m confident/secure enough with myself to not care what this woman is self-promoting. However, perhaps if I were overweight, maybe I would take this more to heart. Everything in perspective people. What irks me is her obvious narcissism, arrogance, ignorance, and complete lack of empathy for anyone that is overweight or not healthy/fit according to her definition. Basically, I could care less what this woman looks like or how “hot” she thinks she is. It’s her attitude that turns me off to whatever positive… Read more »
Izzy
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Izzy

I’m not impressed.

Carla
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Carla
I had some complications after my second pregnancy and have just now been able to start exercise at the gym after six months but after my first baby I was huge and didn’t start exercising until about a year and a half after birth. I was really overwhelmed being a new mother and had a difficult time. I was exhausted sleeping only about three hours a night, with a high needs baby I struggled just with daily life, exercise was the last thing on my mind. I was very big after being slim and fit before pregnancy, I felt disgusted… Read more »
Catherine
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Catherine
Ya, the sleep thing is huge. I stop functioning even when I lose only 2 or 3 hours (from my typical 9), so I’m really interested in how this lady has managed the sleep deficit that comes with a new baby (I know others, like rich celebrities, can get nannies, but what about people who are the sole childcare provider?). Maybe her kids were super easy going and she was just lucky. What if your kid is sick all the time and you’re up all night with them + all the worry you experience. There are honestly so many variables… Read more »
Carla
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Carla

Exactly my point Catherine. Yes she obviously either had help or easy to care for children (I’ve never met any but it’s possible they were), either way you’d hope she would have more compassion and understanding for mothers who are not coping so well.

MerryHappy
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MerryHappy
Lots of people have ‘help’–a husband, an older child. That doesn’t mean her situation is extraordinary by any means. My sister’s kids aren’t ‘easy’ but fitness is a priority to her and they’ll play together while she works out and respond to the structure she set up. She has 3: 11, 5, almost 3. She has always worked out. Even when they were younger ( 8, 3, 1,even after just the first one) she worked out. They would fight in the background, play together, or try to work out with her. She isn’t a bad mother to take 2 hours… Read more »
Carla
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Carla
Sorry if you took offence to my post it was not my intention, I too work out an hour a day my youngest is just 6 months oldest 3 years both at home with me and my husband works very long hours isn’t available to help out. I wasn’t trying to shame mom’s that work out I think it’s great for mental health as well as psychical health e.g happy mom happy baby applies very well here. In fact a little time away is very good. I just didn’t like her (Kangs) slogan or smug attitude as there are many… Read more »
MerryHappy
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MerryHappy
It wasn’t your post, really. The parent style shaming is just so it of hand! the only thing that actually makes me apprehensive about parenthood is the parent shaming. I really didn’t mean to have it all land on you, though, so I hope you didn’t take offense either. I just watched y sister get shamed for wanting to work out and it sucks both ways. She does come off a little arrogant, but I find her far more tolerable than many more vocal fitness ‘celebrities’ and I like that she says kids aren’t an excuse not to work out.… Read more »
Carla
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Carla

That’s okay Merry I get what you mean. Parent shaming is crazy, when it comes to kids people get very emotional and try to justify their actions to avoid self imposed guilf and things get out of hand pretty fast. I’ve found you can’t please everyone you just have to do what works for you and not worry about the opinions of others as at the end of the day they aren’t the ones raising your kids. Live and let live. 🙂

jejune
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jejune

I say bulls—.

She’s like those people during Occupy Wall street who bragged about how they single handedly paid for a $100k education on 5 bucks an hour blah blah

jejune
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jejune
If women just had a better attitude, and weren’t so lazy, they could overcome all of these effects of pregnancy and bounce back nps: Normal, frequent or expectable temporary side effects of pregnancy: exhaustion (weariness common from first weeks) altered appetite and senses of taste and smell nausea and vomiting (50% of women, first trimester) heartburn and indigestion constipation weight gain dizziness and light-headedness bloating, swelling, fluid retention hemmorhoids abdominal cramps yeast infections congested, bloody nose acne and mild skin disorders skin discoloration (chloasma, face and abdomen) mild to severe backache and strain increased headaches difficulty sleeping, and discomfort while… Read more »
lc
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Why I am NEVER having kids lol.

Mia
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I think my biggest problem with her message is the implication that if you do not have six pack abs and a thigh gap (like this woman does), then you are somehow making excuses. There is a reason she chose to model in skimpy workout clothes, with perfect lighting and makeup. She is making this about looks, when it shouldn’t be. I would have felt much better about her message if she had used a picture of herself working out, looking like a sweaty mess. I am saying this as a woman who is normal weight and is in good… Read more »
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AlyssaMoh

photoshopped too. Her boys were not in that original frame. They were added in afterwards.

jejune
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jejune

Her tummy also has looser skin in the beach pic.

She has benefited from photoshop alright

Roxy
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Roxy

I wonder what her husband looks like? Does he have rock hard abs? Why isn’t he in the picture? It seems like she is directing her tips and messages to the females. I hope she is equally “concerned” about all of the overweight men, too.

Lola
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Lola

Fame hungry mommy with mediocre body and overrated fitness idealism.

Liv
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If her body is medicore to you… I;d like to live where you live… because I do not see a lot of women in the US who look like her… unless you go to LA or the west coast… or Flordia… maybe college campuses… but in the everyday world… at least where I live and am from… a lot of women do not look like her.

Kealia1974
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Kealia1974

I do crossfit and there are at least 8 girls in my class that blow her out of the water in the body department. My point is that fit people can easily look like that. Good for her but her obnoxious slogan is off putting.

Pet Peeve
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Pet Peeve

I’m motivated! I don’t get the haters….

Lisa
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Lisa

am I the only one who just doesn’t care? I don’t know her, she doesn’t know me. I won’t carry this image in my head with me for motivation. I work out and I’m proud of how I look, and it has nothing to do with her.

solaxia
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solaxia
No, I also don’t care. What annoys me is the self righteous people who act like they should add up to her ‘standards’ and bring on the shaming of other people. I also don;t feel bad about myself or give a crap that she has done well. I actually, I do give a crap because I am proud of her achievements even though i dont know her. I love seeing stories of women who have done well and lost weight. I am looking at it more in the way of women as a whole and kind of taking those who… Read more »
Lisa
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Lisa

yeah, these posts will always bring ugly comments against both sides. I think she knew that. That’s what irks me a little: she did it to incite. People can take it or leave it, but she knew most people would take it and use it to bash others. Just focus on your own body. Worrying about someone else’s is a waste of time. it doesn’t keep me up at night if some guy or gal went to bed not having worked out that day, they aren’t me!

solaxia
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solaxia
Look, more power to her for having those PERSONAL goals, and for having the motivation to reach them! However, as others have said, not everyone has the same goal! Some people may not be 10% fat with visible muscle tone…hey they may even be carrying an extra 10-15lbs but be perfectly healthy medical wise…doesn’t mean they are trying less hard than others, or are striving for the same thing. Some people don’t WANT to look like fitness models! I personally like muscles on women and would love to get back to that…my excuse is, it’s not my number one priority… Read more »
Erica
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I agree again solaxia. I am currently struggling with depression and I have put on weight because I tend to have a bigger appetite/less self-control when I feel down. Some people are the opposite. I have a friend who is going through a hard time right now too and she’s barely able to eat anything – neither extreme is good. I sometimes think the people who are so judgemental about these things just have never had to struggle with mental health issues or traumatic life changes that can ruin your momentum. And maybe some people can go through all that… Read more »
anonymous
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anonymous
Erica I am sick of you and I am sick of you getting away with all the drivel you come out with and not one person ever pulls you up on it. You are on this site 365 days a year, 7 days a week bad mouthing women for not having the right whr or being “too thin” yet you have the audacity to sit there and complain as soon as someone says something about an obese person…How dare you? you are so rude about so many women and then dare you say it’s all about “looks” you are one… Read more »
spaceskylite
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spaceskylite

I have a Phd and am in the process of doing cancer research. What’s YOUR excuse Maria Kang?

The point is, everyone has their personal goals…Hers are as valid as mine, but how about just leaving it at “I had 3 kids and feel awesome! If I can do it, so can you!” instead of couching her success in an accusatory tone. Dumb.

jenn
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jenn

what do i think? this woman was obviously looking for publicity, maybe even a sponsorship deal, and guess what? she got the publicity she wanted, and for free! haha. yes, she looks good, and i am sure she gave up quite a lot to get that body after three kids. but, i do find her words slightly offensive. some people struggle with so much more than body image after having children…for some, it is life or death. i think she was looking for the attention and got it. good for her.

Veronique
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Veronique

I think the obnoxious part of her little picture is the caption: “what’s your excuse?” That, to me, comes across as condescending and rude. I think she would have gotten more positive feedback if she would have went with something like, “you can do it!” or just something more motivational.

Alex
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Alex
Ugh, here the claws are out again. I swear someone could say “I wake up in the morning” and someone on this website would jump in and say “she doesn’t realize some people are in comas and can’t wake up!!! what an insensitive b*tchhh”. Her point is general, people make excuses about the reasons why they don’t look a certain way and at the end of the day VERY few people actually have valid excuses. And no, she’s not “fat shaming”, she’s clearly not attacking people. She looks amazing and is simply saying it’s possible for most of America. I’m… Read more »
Jessica
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Jessica

Women are always looking for cheap excuses to get out of exercising and working hard for a toned body, blaming everything on post pregnancy weight. I say its total crap. love your comment

Seriously
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Seriously

Yup, exactly. Why do women feel the need to bring other women down?

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oh my god I can’t believe how many raging stupid *ss people this % ~** “CONTROVERSY!!**%~(what a joke) got crawling out of their bitter ignorant holes. I’m 22 yo no kids and lazy af. I’m slim but too flabby. my thoughts when I saw her picture: “well damn. this lady has three kids and even she finds the time, discipline and motivation to work out hard. Wow this is really amazing!….*walks into kitchen to grabs munchies*….. *adds ‘gym’ to her calendar* ^^^^THIS is the intended reaction (more or less lol) This was never aimed at people with serious health issues… Read more »
Seriously
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Seriously

Exactly! You get it! I said the same thing… but in a less ignorant way.

xoxo Presumptuous

Seriously
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Seriously
I check this website daily just for the comments. I like understanding how other women truly think and love how the animosity of the internet helps bring out sincerity. When I first saw this, I thought, “Damn girl! You have 3 kids and look great!” Why is there so much pettiness and negativity on this website? You guys are seriously the worst type of people. I shouldn’t have been surprised when I read comment after comment criticizing Maria Kang for being a confident, hard-working, and HEALTHY mother of three; however, with the high importance most of you place on physical… Read more »
lichinka
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lichinka

i find her pictures a big motivation for going to gym and exercise!! I am happy for her and I want to accomplish the same if I have 3 kids some day! …..
I really can’t understand the BIG problem here.

SA girl
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SA girl

I agree with your positive comment, as well as other ladies posting similar comments. She looks amazing, toned and fit! Stunning. Such adorable dollys!! (babies)

TW
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yes obviously we all have choices to an extent on our physical bodies but then we all have choices to whether we care or not THAT much about our bodies conforming to social norms. This woman is clearly not the best person to get body advice from as she just stated she has/had an eating disorder [ no offence to to anyone with E.D] her importance of the way her body looks is such a big priority for her so therefore she is going to make it look as best as she can. So good for her and i geniunely… Read more »
Faith
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Faith
That fact is though isn’t she a fitness insturctor thats her job. Its not like she has full time job away from fitness then worked out her job is to work out and help others work out. Yeah she looks fantastic and well done for her but don’t shame women because they have full time jobs and children so they struggle to find the time. Yeah I do six day weeks and sure I could find the time to work out my excuse is I like the time I have to myself to relax. I find her “apology” its so… Read more »
Endless Infinity
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Endless Infinity
I think she’s a good motivator. I wouldn’t really consider her as great as being ‘inspirational’. She looks a lot like my personal trainer who can lift over 100 kgs and she herself weighs 55kgs- a goal I’m aiming for! Being fit is a personal priority. No one really owes it to anyone except themselves. It’s a good priority to have, I personally believe because it comes with so many other added benefits like less stress and improved health along with looking aesthetically appealing. But if you don’t prioritise that, that’s fine as well. To each their own. She’s very… Read more »
Mia
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I’d like to know what her excuse is for having such poor grammar. How is she going to help her kids when they are in school when she can’t even use commas and apostrophes properly? Maybe she is too busy counting her calories and working out to read a book every once in a while.

See what I did there?
Very interesting how people find these “fitspiritional” memes so compelling, yet if a scientist asked the public “what’s your excuse for not getting a PhD?” most people would be up in arms over it.

Snugglepup
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Snugglepup

She has struggled with eating disorder – she’s highly sensitive about her looks still, as it seems, even in that busy time of life her life she seems to think it’s necessary to maintain certain physical look, be fit etc. If that’s her choice then be it, but not everybody is body, look or even health centered like that.

JennM
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JennM
I am not personally offended by her quote, but I do think it is body-shaming, and that she is full of herself. Saying “whats your excuse” makes it seem like there is no rational reason that you don’t look like a personal trainer. And, honestly, I don’t think she looks that great. I think it is the inclusion of that phrase “whats your excuse” that makes it rude. I have a masters degree, I am proud of that, there is no shame in being proud of yourself. But, if I said. “I have a masters degree, whats your excuse?” or… Read more »
tequilla
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tequilla

i am all for healthy and fit, but i must say.. my aim in life is not to have 3 kids at 32, look like a supermodel and clean my house.. i mean 3 at 32, wow.. i bet she never been outside her own country so..good for her atleast she looks good and own a bussines.

jglwj
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jglwj
I hate this wave of “fitspiration” that’s been sweeping around tumblr and the internet more lately. I don’t mean that people haven’t always been fit and it’s a new fad, but recently there’s been an influx of fitblrs and people saying things like “Fit is the new skinny” etc. While sometimes people are just trying to be healthy, the fitblr community as a whole often shames people who disagree with their habits, don’t work out 24/7, or don’t have a perfect body. The worst part is that fitspo masquerades as something healthy when it can be almost as detrimental to… Read more »
Jill
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Jill
That’s an apology? Could have fooled me… Also, what’s the point of saying “I won’t even mention that…” before you mention it? I’m fine with her doing what she does and taking pride in it. The issue is that she’s trying to put that on other people and that’s just lame. Some people are super fit and love to work out to achieve that aesthetic look, and others stay healthy without being rock hard. If she hasn’t yet realized that there are all kinds of people from all walks of life who come in different shapes and sizes (and that’s… Read more »
Roxy
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Roxy

She sounds like the new Samantha Brick. LOL

jo
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what sort of denotation does she expect viewers to derive from a slogan like that?! there are better ways to show off your own achievements than by calling eveyone elses into question, which is obviously the implied message here (regardless of whether she wants to admit it or not). Trying to play innocent and turning it around on eveyone else is even more unnecessary. By all means go around showing off and feeling good about oneself, but theres no cause to ridicule fellow mothers in the process.

JKM
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good for her. and to the poster below, you are correct, that isnt your priority (per your words) but there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good. I used to train 3 times a day, 7 days a week when I was a model. Now, I dont do nearly as much as I should but that doesnt mean I give Maria credit. People are haters and full or negativity. They are saying harsh things to her because they wish they had the structure to train the way she does (I wish I did too) but I am not going… Read more »
elle
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elle

My two cents: she isn’t saying you should be skinny and starving yourself, but being fit and healthy. Truth is lots of women complains about their weight, I know some of them myself, I actually WAS one of them. I think this picture is ok, maybe too rude, maybe it would be better if Maria didn’t show her abs because having abs isn’t necessary, but being in healthy weight is truly important.

Namrata
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Namrata

Just because Maria is a fit mother of 3 doesn’t mean everyone HAS to be. I mean she is not the ideal standard against which all mothers are compared.

annabanana
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wow i agree. made me smile 🙂

puffyeyes
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puffyeyes

“What’s your excuse?”
Well, I’d feel like a boy if I looked like you.

You be happy being you and don’t think I don’t work hard just because I don’t look like you.

She doesn’t have a lack of tack or PR graces…but a deficit of it.

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